The following post is an excerpt from Frank’s newest book, The Soft Science of Tennis.
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“You need to develop a thick skin” is a common mantra for strong character building. It’s an effective defense to the critics. Trust me, the most common way you know you’re rising above the crowd is when others begin to trash-talk and criticize you solely because of their petty jealousy. If athletes aren’t able to take criticism, they should stay home, lie on the couch and stop improving immediately!”
In regards to character, actions speak louder than words. Parents and coaches need to remember that they are modeling character and that their actions have a more significant impact than their words. It is the role of parents and coaches to create a positive environment for ideal character building. Build character and lead by example:
- It’s cool to be kind so choose kindness.
- Vulnerability is a courageous character trait and not a weakness. So embrace vulnerability.
- Share successes and failures. Share your story as a learning tool.
- Laugh and joke as you apply humor to your daily training sessions.
- Give credit to others for your success.
- Compliment others daily on everything and anything.
“Invest more time and energy in your positive character building, and you’ll witness your athletes
modeling positive behavior.”
