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YOUR VOICE IS YOUR CHOICE
It’s important to note that athletes need to be accountable for their mindset, attitude and outlook. If you feel you have a bit of a fixed mindset, listen and spot those negative voices. It takes effort and commitment to flip a fixed mindset with a new, proactive growth mindset. Congratulations are in order for those of you willing to improve your mindset.
Along the lines of mindsets, improving one’s life skills promotes a healthier, self-reliant individual. Life skills are universal stepping stones necessary to succeed in sports and life. At the heart of emotional aptitude is the ability to be self-reliant and self-disciplined, two of my favorite life skills.
SOLUTION # 3: Life Skills Assessment
Increase your emotional aptitude by improving the following life skills. For each of the following life skills, grade your level of competence 1 through 10. (The number “1” represents an extreme weakness and the number “10” represents an extreme strength.) Simply circle the number that best describes your comfort level.
Time Management: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
The time management life skill is the ability to use one’s time effectively or productively. To become a more successful athlete, this would include organizing daily, weekly and monthly planners. This includes the scheduling and development of each of the four major components (technical, athletic, mental, and emotional) essential to compete at the higher levels.
Adaptability: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
The adaptability life skill is being able to adjust to different situations and conditions comfortably. To get the most from your physical talent, one must be open to change. Adapting is emotional intelligence at work.
Handling Adversity: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
Handling adversity is a critical athletic and life skill. Competition brings hardship, drama, and suffering along with the positive attributes. Overcoming the daily problems is what a champ thrives on. Seeing adversity as a challenge versus a life or death crisis is key.
Handling Stress: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
Stress causes biological and mental tension. It occurs when one believes that their physical skills aren’t strong enough to meet the challenge. While some personalities stress more than others, stress is dramatically reduced by proper preparation and a positive attitude.
Courage: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
Courage is the ability to apply belief in your skills in spite of the threat at hand. Of course, if you aren’t training at 100%, true courage doesn’t exist. Courage is knowing that competition in sports is not to be feared but to be embraced. Courage is not allowing yourself to listen to the typical noise of “What if I lose.”
Work Ethic: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
Work ethic is a diligent, consistent standard of conduct. It is the belief that the physical, mental and emotional components will strengthen, and goals will be achieved through a deliberate, customized plan.
Perseverance: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
Perseverance is one’s ability to stay on course through setbacks, discouragement, injuries and losses. It is the ability to stubbornly fight to achieve greatness.
Resiliency: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
Resiliency is the capacity to recover and adjust after difficulties. Champions fall, hurt and fail just like us but they have preset protocols to adapt and press on. Winners aren’t always the most intelligent or even the strongest athletes in the event. They are often the individuals who respond with the best adjustments after misfortunes.
Goal Setting: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
Goal setting is the process of identifying something that you want to accomplish with measurable goals. Dreams are a great start, but the work begins when both specific performance improvement goals and outcome goals are set with action plans and target dates. Setting daily, monthly and long term goals builds the emotional strength you seek.
Sticking to Commitments: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
Commitments are obligations that restrict freedom of action. Staying loyal to a written action plan separates the champion from the part time hobbyist. Hobbyists train when it’s convenient. Committed athletes put their sport above their social calendar.
Determination: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
Determination is the power to persist with a singular fixed purpose. It’s being hell bent on reaching your goals. Champions often begin as average athletes with abnormal determination.
Problem-Solving Skills: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
Identifying the problem is only the first step. Step two is to isolate the causes of the problem. Step three is then to customize the solution to the problem. Creative problem solving requires digging deeper than simply identifying the flaw.
Spotting Patterns and Tendencies: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
Patterns and tendencies are an individual’s predisposition to do something repeatedly. Spotting reoccurring behavior is essential in understanding your own strengths and weaknesses as well as defeating a worthy opponent.
Discipline: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
Discipline is behavior that is judged by how well it follows a set of rules. It is one of the most important emotional elements that turns dreams and goals into accomplishments. It often requires you to choose to train…when you’d rather be socializing. Discipline is painful but not nearly as painful as losing to people you should be beating.
Sportsmanship: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
Sportsmanship is the underlying respect for the game, the rules governing the sport, the opponents and the officials. It’s giving it your all and carrying yourself with pride regardless of the outcome.
Focus: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
Focus is the ability to be single minded in your interest. This relates to a short term goal such as a single play, point or game all the way towards attaining a long term goal such as being offered a college athletic scholarship.
Preparation Skills: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
The life skill of being prepared is especially important in athletics. Preparing properly for battle is one of the most neglected aspects of intermediate athletes. Success stems from total preparation. It is truly the key to preventing a poor performance.
Persistence: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
Persistence is the continued passion of action in spite of opposition. You need constant energy devoted to your sport. Anything less means that you’re a hobbyist. Persistence gets you to the top. Consistency with that persistent frame of mind keeps you there.
Dedication: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
Dedication is the quality of being committed to a purpose. Dedication to a sport requires passion and commitment to strive for daily improvement. Lazy, non-athletic people use the word “obsessed” to describe the dedicated athletes.
Positive Self-Image: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
Strong emotional aptitude starts with positive self-esteem. Trusting yourself is a key to competing freely. Changing the negative self-talk into positive internal dialog is a great start.
Revisit your scores above and begin strengthening your emotional aptitude by improving any skill that you graded 7 or less. Keep in mind that solutions are customized to your personality and circumstances. These life lessons are the roots that competitive character skills stem from. Achieving spectacular results requires thousands of hours of deliberate customized practice. Without the foundation of critical “root” skills (optimism, growth mindset and life lessons), a deliberate customized developmental plan will fail to bloom. Subsequently, without proper training; results never materialize.
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QUESTION: What is pre-match gamesmanship and/or intimidation?
Frank: Winning matches begins in the pre-match warm up. Controlling the opponent by exhibiting a superior demeanor causes intimidation. It’s a perception of power. Let’s look at ten legal strategies your athlete can employ to gain a psychological advantage even before the very first point has been played.
How to Intimidate Legally in the Warm-Up Checklist:
1) Make the opponent wait for you. This sends a message that you’re the person who’s going to control today’s match.
2) Feed balls directly at their belly button during the warm up to see which stroke they prefer. They’ll run around their weaker side, “telling you” their deficiencies.
3) Use your most elegant form on every stroke.
4) Move quickly to get every ball on one bounce.
5) If you don’t like their shot, catch the ball and re-start the rally.
6) During baseline rallies, aim your groundstrokes deep at their feet. This serves two purposes, it grooves your depth and only provides them with defensive shot options.
7) When they’re at the net, junk balls at their feet versus giving them hard & high confidence building volleys.
8) As you offer lobs for their overhead smashes, re-lob deeper to make them hit off their back foot.
9) When serving, don’t let them hit returns yet, try to steal a few returns to get a feel for their serve.
10) Consistency is incredibly intimidating. Be steady by simply matching the ball speed.
By controlling the warm up, your athlete is sending the subliminal message that the opponent is going to have a bad day at the office.
The following post is a re-post from The True Athlete Project. 
“It’s not the size of the dog in the fight, it’s the size of the fight in the dog.” – Mark Twain
Mark Twain’s famous quote could not be a more fitting in the world of competitive tennis. Emotional Aptitude in Tennis peeks into why athletes with seemingly solid games lose… and lose often. Most players enter the game intently focused on improving technical (strokes), mental (strategic) and their athletic components. Unfortunately, these outward components are kidnapped due to under-developed emotional skill sets. I have written a new book, Emotional Aptitude in Sports, as a result of my curious obsession with the root causes of choking and panicking under stress.
Why do a handful of players at the club have all the trophies?
Why isn’t on-court stroke production, riding the stationary bike or buying the latest gear helping athletes earn more hardware? To the untrained eye, technique and mental toughness seems to take the blame for most losses. But if these components appear flawless in practice on Friday only to abandon the athlete in Saturday’s match, there is definitely more to the story. All too often it’s an athlete’s lack of emotional aptitude that’s holding them hostage under stress. Successfully handling competitive pressure demands a more focused emotional developmental regimen.
Decades of observational research has shown me that emotional aptitude is more important than “perfect” technique in athletic competition.
Athletes are often frustrated that their match day performance is far inferior to their practice performance. The majority of tennis athletes interviewed believed that the inherent complexity of their sport is the cause of their stress that halts their success. But in actuality, their stress is caused by simply being judged. While every top athlete must be willing to put in the hours developing their technique, becoming physically fit and understanding tennis specific strategic plans, to be a successful competitor, they must also to be able to perform when it counts. As professionals, we see it every weekend, in every age division whether we realize it or not. Elegant looking, well trained athletes often wilt under the heat of competition while seemingly unorthodox looking competitors flourish. Why?
The answer is the athlete’s lack of complete development- avoiding the development of the emotional component.
Let’s use the computer analogy to further explain this phenomena. I’d like you to look at an athlete the same way you look at your computer. For the computer to run efficiently both the external hardware and internal software packages work seamlessly together. For the athlete, their hardware package consists of their technical and athletic aptitude. Their software package consists of their mental and emotional aptitude. Far too many athletes are unevenly developed as competitors.
Poor emotional aptitude actually causes your students technique to break down, their footwork to vanish, their focus to waver and their problem solving skills to abandon them when they need them the most. It’s our job as industry leaders to begin to develop the skill sets necessary to strengthen most athlete’s weakest link …which is the emotional muscle.
Parents need to know that this situation is partially the teaching professional’s failure. As I travel across the country I see two very common teaching scenarios, one set of coaches are the political “snow job” artist and the second set are true developmental artist. I see the “snow job” artist at posh country clubs, in parks and rec’s and coaching D-1 College. They are political masters. They fully understand that teaching “change” is difficult and uncomfortable. It’s much, much easier for them to fluff over the difficult changes and keep everyone coming back smiling next week. I get it- if the athlete wants to hit and giggle. But in order to serve the best interest of the competitive tennis player, more of the second set of coaches are needed- those who choose to develop a complete athlete by developing technical, athletic, mental and emotional components to maximize the player’s potential.
I employ the coaches to take the high road in the education of your children. The challenge for both the parents and the coaches is to do the research and improve so teaching the more difficult components becomes second nature. This requires both IQ… And emotional aptitude. Which brings us full circle.
Understanding emotional aptitude, as a parent or coach, will help you to help your athletes as you connect at a deeper level. It will aid you in mastering difficult components and conversations. Most importantly, emotional intelligence will assist you in developing more efficient competitors at crunch time. I’m convinced that the future leaders are the teachers who are open to learning and then sharing. This is what moves us all forward.
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QUESTION: Why does my daughter become irrational when cheated?
Frank: The human brain simply can’t stand being treated unfairly. It’s that resentment of injustice which triggers the downward spiral. Youngsters feel they deserve a fair chance of any reward being offered and with that taken away … so goes their rational decision making abilities.
How to handle unjust situations is not a tennis issue, it’s a learned life skill. When a tennis opponent is repeatedly cheating and provoking your athlete, a full-blown meltdown is often the result. Biochemical reactions in the brain distort rational reasoning and the fight or flight syndrome overtakes the situation. That is, unless your athlete has been trained to insert the correct protocol- which is the solution to the problem.
Taking back control begins by understanding Channel Capacity- a term neuroscience has assigned to the brain’s inability to process multiple forms of important information at one time. A common example of channel capacity is texting and driving.
“The human brain cannot solve two complicated tasks simultaneously.”
On-court, the creative line caller systematically pulls your athlete away from the present (performance state of mind) and into the past or future (outcome state of mind.) Understanding this phenomenon is key to salvaging seemingly catastrophic matches.
So instead of little Zack focusing on his performance goals such as “ I’m going to serve to the backhand, hit high and heavy ground-strokes and crush short balls.”, Zack finds himself stuck in the wrong thought process. He is thinking “This guy is such a punk!!! I can’t lose to such a cheater, what will my friends say? I can’t believe I lost the last set, he’s ranked 57 spots below me…” The creative line caller has now got Zack right where he wants him-mentally far away from his performance goals.
If your athlete has issues playing against cheaters, ignoring the issue and hoping it will go away is not in their best interest. I recommend practicing their pre-set protocol during practice sessions to reinforce their match tough confidence. Arrange a few practice matches each week with the opponent being allowed to call any close ball out. Learning to deal with adversity and staying on the correct side of your brain under duress is a skill set that must be rehearsed.
“Tennis, like life, is not fair…but remember, sometimes it’s not fair in your favor.”
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BLUNDER: Displaying Negative Character Traits
Guess who was an angry emotional train wreck as a junior competitor? If you said Andre Agassi, Rafael Nadal, Roger Federer, then you’re right! Moral excellence is a maturing process. Everyone can compete in a relaxed, happy state, but not everyone wants to.
Negative behavior is often motor-programmed into a player’s routine. It is a comfortable, dirty, old habit. The development of character lies is the ability to first learn to be uncomfortable competing without the negative act. It’s like a stand-up comedian without his props to hide behind. The old props (anger outbursts) are comfortable.
CURE: The solution lies in the understanding that you have a character choice. Somewhere in their teens, Federer and Nadal were taught a wiser code of conduct and chose to apply it. Displaying anger outburst on court drains you of exact energy needed to win the tournament.
Anger is actually a show of fear or lack of confidence- often shown when skills are is question. Showing out of control anger outbursts is an immature behavior that is unacceptable in all arenas of life- disrespecting yourself and others. If you work as hard as you can developing your game, on-court and off-court, your anger will be replaced with confidence. It is not to say you will win every match, but you will understand that showing negative out-of-control energy is unproductive and damaging behavior Learning to accept and improve upon weaknesses will develop moral excellence- a valuable life skill.
To progress comfortably through the junior tennis wars, both game skills and life skills are essential. Begin early building your own positive navigational tools on and off the court. Start to build relationships with players, families, stringers and tournament directors.
Ask Yourself?
In my last tournament, did I show respect to myself, my opponent, fans and the tournament staff? In my next tournament, can I make a point to say Hi to the tournament staff? When was the last time you thanked your parents, coaches or even stringer? Have I ever thought about why you display anger outbursts? Here is why most players show anger- they are trying to send the message that they are normally not “this” bad- this is just an exceptionally bad day. Does this sound familiar? The problem is that this behavior hurts you and does nothing to improve your performance.
Write down your Personal Action Plan:
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BLUNDER: Displaying Negative Character Traits
Guess who was an angry emotional train wreck as a junior competitor? If you said Andre Agassi, Rafael Nadal, Roger Federer, then you’re right! Moral excellence is a maturing process. Everyone can compete in a relaxed, happy state, but not everyone wants to.
Negative behavior is often motor-programmed into a player’s routine. It is a comfortable, dirty, old habit. The development of character lies is the ability to first learn to be uncomfortable competing without the negative act. It’s like a stand-up comedian without his props to hide behind. The old props (anger outbursts) are comfortable.
CURE: The solution lies in the understanding that you have a character choice. Somewhere in their teens, Federer and Nadal were taught a wiser code of conduct and chose to apply it. Displaying anger outburst on court drains you of exact energy needed to win the tournament.
Anger is actually a show of fear or lack of confidence- often shown when skills are is question. Showing out of control anger outbursts is an immature behavior that is unacceptable in all arenas of life- disrespecting yourself and others. If you work as hard as you can developing your game, on-court and off-court, your anger will be replaced with confidence. It is not to say you will win every match, but you will understand that showing negative out-of-control energy is unproductive and damaging behavior Learning to accept and improve upon weaknesses will develop moral excellence- a valuable life skill.
To progress comfortably through the junior tennis wars, both game skills and life skills are essential. Begin early building your own positive navigational tools on and off the court. Start to build relationships with players, families, stringers and tournament directors.
Ask Yourself?
In my last tournament, did I show respect to myself, my opponent, fans and the tournament staff? In my next tournament, can I make a point to say Hi to the tournament staff? When was the last time you thanked your parents, coaches or even stringer? Have I ever thought about why you display anger outbursts? Here is why most players show anger- they are trying to send the message that they are normally not “this” bad- this is just an exceptionally bad day. Does this sound familiar? The problem is that this behavior hurts you and does nothing to improve your performance.
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Guess who was an angry emotional train wreck as a junior competitor? If you said Andre Agassi, Rafael Nadal, Roger Federer and even the iceman Bjorn Borg, then you’re right!
Moral excellence is a maturing process. Everyone can compete in a relaxed, happy state, but not everyone wants to. Let’s cover that again. Everyone can compete in a relaxed, happy state, but not everyone wants to!
Often negative behavior has been motor programmed into the player’s routine. It is a comfortable, dirty, old habit. The development of character lies in the ability to first learn to be uncomfortable competing without the negative act. It’s like a stand-up comedian without his props to hide behind. The old props are comfortable.
The insight lies in the understanding that each player has a character choice. Somewhere in their late teens; Borg, Federer and Nadal were taught a wiser code of conduct and chose to apply it.
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ON COURT ANGER
” My daughter gets annoyed at the smallest of things” or “My son “sails” into a rage whenever things aren’t going his way” or maybe “My child can’t get this anger monkey off her back, can you help?”
Do any of these comments sound familiar?
Parents in distress call me week in, week out with issues I categorize as frustration tolerance. The first thing I try to express is that not all anger is bad. Fire can be used as an analogy. Controlled fire can be used to cook meals and heat homes. Uncontrolled fire can burn down homes. Managing anger and fire requires knowledge and skill!
Often it is the good anger that actually propels your child into an upward spiral. This rush of adrenaline often pushes them into a higher level. The concerns arise when the player chooses to let his or her negative emotions control their behavior. In my opinion, bad anger on the court stems from lack of knowledge, resources and tools. Here’s a great example:
Jake has been taking lessons for years. He and his coach have focused on developing his primary physical strokes. His tools going into an Open tournament are his solid flat serve, his hard driving ground strokes, and solid traditional volleys. Is this enough to win titles? Not likely.
We know from our experience that secondary strokes are required in order to compete at the higher levels. So, Jake draws a retriever/pusher in the second round and once again goes down in flames. Jake has a temper tantrum, cursing and throwing his racket as he emotionally falls apart. His fall apart is due to his lack of smart training.
Without the secondary shots and patterns used to pull a great retriever out of their game Jake has little chance. Building the mental and emotional tools give him solutions and plans. Once tools are developed, instead of getting angry, he calmly shifts to plan B or C. Accelerated learning is all about options. Handling frustration is a learned behavior.
Below is a list of mental and emotional tools your child should digest in order to begin to manage anger and stress. Talk it through and have some fun.
Twelve Ways to Tame Inner-Demons
On the practice court, ask your child to rehearse finding something they did well on each point. This will shift their energy and focus from the negative to positive. The thoughts you feed tend to multiply. Multiplying the positive is a learned behavior.
This rule applies to parents as well as players! Here’s an example: I teach a 14 year old nationally ranked junior that has a terrific 110 mph serve. As she was “nailing” her serve into the box, all her father could say was “Ya, but look at her knee bend, it’s pitiful…etc.” Ouch!
The most important lessons are taught in tournament play. They are analyzed in match logs. Assist your child in completing a match log after each match. Match logs are great for deciphering the X’s and O’s of why your child is getting their results.
Solutions are found in match logs! The poised even tempered players have preset solutions rehearsed and designed for their future on court problems. Match logs identify the reoccurring nightmares. In anger management, prevention is the best medicine.
Champions are performance orientated not outcome orientated. In a single match, professionals think about the same hand full of patterns a thousand times, irritated juniors think about a thousand different things in the same single match!
After blowing a lead I ask our players “What were you thinking about when you went up 5-2?” The answer is almost always future outcome issues such as “what’s my ranking going to be after I beat this guy.”
Parents need to be performance goal oriented as well. After a match parents need to replace “Did you win?” with “How did you perform?” In the 2009 Masters Doubles, one ATP team got 81% of their first serves in and capitalized on 3 out of 4 break points. By looking at the performance chart/goals only, guess who won easily? Now, that’s thinking like a champion!
There are so many reasons why this game is not fair. Understanding these issues will reduce the stress some juniors place on themselves. For instance, luck of the draw, court surfaces, match locations, elements like weather, wind, lucky let courts, miss-hit winners, creative line callers…Can you think of a few?
The difference is how they use it! I suggested getting a daily planner and discuss time management with your child. Assist them in organizing their on-court and off-court weekly schedule. Avoiding anger on match day is earned on the practice court. Most often, players seeing red shouldn’t be mad at their match performance. They should be upset with their pre-match preparation.
Poise, relaxed performers are confident with their skills because they deeply believe they are doing everything in their power to prepare properly. I’ve found that players that are breathing fire in matches know, deep down, that they are now paying the price for their lack of preparation.
In the heat of battle, experience tells us that if you are struggling take a moment to detach. Often appearing unflappable is the tool needed to send the opponent over the edge. The opponent will appear calm as long as you are the one throwing temper tantrums. If you are steamed, fake it until you make it! Simply pretend to be unruffled.
Parent’s this applies to you as well. Detach during your child’s match by going for a brisk walk, read the paper or listen to your ipod. This sends the message that you are not overly stressed about the results.
Take a moment and talk to your child about time management as it pertains to controlling the pace of the match. Winners absolutely control the pace of the match. Think back, top seeds often take bathroom breaks at critical times in a match, don’t they? Controlling the energy flow of the match is a super way to control the fire!
Discuss how most tennis champions have probably lost way more matches than your child has lost. Ambitious people experience many failures.
Two of my past students are the ATP’s Sam Querrey (top 20) and the WTA’s Vania King (The 2010 Wimbledon doubles Champion). They both go home losing most tournaments they enter. Would you say that these two tennis millionaires are losers? Not a chance!
You often see top professionals battle and still smile in the course of a match. The vintage Vic Braden slogan “Laugh & win” makes perfect sense!
Stress and anger clutter your thought processes; pull you into the wrong side of your brain which destroys your problem solving ability; irritates, tightens and constricts muscle flow which decreases your swing speed as well as your on court movement and/or simply destroys one’s ability to perform.
Discuss how there are millions of great athletes the same age as your child that will never even get the opportunity to compete at this level. Tennis isn’t fair, right? But has your child thought about how lucky they are to be able to play tennis and have a family that wants to support their passion?
The answer is Bad Judgment. It is far less painful to learn from others failures. After a tournament loss, don’t race home steaming mad. Instead, stay at the tournament site and observe a top seed.
Replace focusing on the strokes with analyzing the easy going attitudes as well as the infuriated, angry behaviors. Remind your child that an unflappable, quiet opponent is far more difficult and annoying to compete against than a wild angry one.
Ask your child to allow you to video tape a few matches. As they watch them back, ask your child to count the times they had a negative thought, loss of concentration or an emotional breakdown on the court. Now, here’s the solution.
Ask them to simply reduce that number by 25% in next week’s video match. If done properly, negative behavior will be weeded out of your child’s match play within a month’s time.
Ask your child if they are always pushing themselves to their fullest potential? Remind them that there are thousands of really good juniors. There are only a handful of great juniors. From a parents’ perspective, if you do not push gently everyday (or pay someone to do the daily pushing) your child does not have a shot!
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