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Respecting Your Athlete’s Personality Profile

Posted on November 25, 2017 by in Raising Athletic Royalty

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Battling is Optional

I got a call from Jim Thompson from Columbus, Ohio. “My son is one of the most talented athletes out there, but he can’t do anything right under pressure.” After an hour on the phone, Jim decided to book a flight to Southern California for him and his son Jordon for a 2-day session.

After I asked a series of brief introductory questions, we discussed how maximizing potential begins when a parent or coach stops forcing the athlete into their way of thinking and enters into the child’s world. It became clear that Mr. Thompson’s ISTJ personality profile was polar opposite to Jordan’s ENFP profile. Not only did Jordan see the world differently than his father, he had a contrasting style of completing tasks and was wired with a very different set of proficiencies and deficiencies. Jim went from answering most questions that I asked Jordan to remaining silent.

Jim began to realize how differently he and son viewed the world. With tears in his eyes, Jim said “I’ve been raising my son wrong for the last 14 years! I seriously believed that my way of thinking was the only way, without regard to Jordan’s personality preference.  I have been stunting his growth.  Jordan, I’m so sorry.”  As he apologized to Jordan, they both began to cry.

Jordan told me during a Skype session a few weeks later that the experience changed their entire family chemistry. He said, “My dad now tells me he loves me. He never did that before.” Understanding personality profiles have been known to bring harmony to an otherwise chaotic environment.

 

“If you need to control everyone and everything, you’ll lose in the long run. Raising athletic royalty is a compromise. Harmony is found when families take the time to look into how each individual is wired and respect how this may affect what they say or what they do.”

 

“PARENTS, DURING A BATTLE WITH YOUR CHILD, ENCOURAGE SOLUTIONS
VERSUS SIMPLY LISTING PROBLEMS.”

Customizing a Developmental Plan

Posted on November 11, 2017 by in Raising Athletic Royalty

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ASSESSMENT

Customizing a Developmental Plan

When I accept a new client, I begin their session with a collection of detailed information as part of my Customized Evaluation Package. Upon completion of the evaluation, each component of the athlete’s game is systematically graded by three separate entities: the player, the parent and I. Most often, three different opinions result.  Typically, the players think they are great in all categories regardless of their actual skill level, the typical Type A personality parents believe their children are underachieving in most categories and I represent an unbiased professional opinion (usually somewhere in the middle). My role is to find a synergy of energy to bridge the gap between parent and child so a harmonious organizational plan can be activated to maximize potential.

I begin by gaining an understanding of the child’s personality profile, their athleticism, their athletic history, as well as their family’s athletic history. We don’t stop there. Discussions cover their general sports IQ (intelligence quotient), their current weekly developmental schedule, their academic schedule, their social calendars and their sport-specific schedules. We then dive into their sport-specific IQ, their current technical skills, their opinions regarding the demands of physical fitness, mental tenacity, and their emotional skill sets. All assets and liabilities are assessed before a customized developmental plan is put into effect.

This organizational process of designing an athletic blue-print should be the parent’s primary responsibility but is most often left to chance. Parents who take the time to develop a customized plan put their child in a position to maximize their potential at a faster rate. Note that for each stage of adolescence (early/mid/late), there are several common developmental protocols that most coaches follow. I challenge you to go deeper.

 

“Assessing your child’s abilities and developing a customized game plan begins with understanding their inborn strengths and weaknesses. Their brain type and body type play the most important role in understanding their developmental pathway.”

ASSESSMENT: Customizing a Developmental Plan

Posted on November 3, 2017 by in Raising Athletic Royalty

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ASSESSMENT

LESSON: Customizing a Developmental Plan

When I accept a new client, I begin their session with a collection of detailed information as part of my Customized Evaluation Package. Upon completion of the evaluation, each component of the athlete’s game is systematically graded by three separate entities: the player, the parent, and I. Most often, three different opinions result.  Typically, the players think they are great in all categories regardless of their actual skill level, the typical Type A personality parents believe their children are underachieving in most categories and I represent an unbiased professional opinion (usually somewhere in the middle). My role is to find a synergy of energy to bridge the gap between parent and child so a harmonious organizational plan can be activated to maximize potential.

I begin by gaining an understanding of the child’s personality profile, their athleticism, their athletic history, as well as their family’s athletic history. We don’t stop there. Discussions cover their general sports IQ (intelligence quotient), their current weekly developmental schedule, their academic schedule, their social calendars and their sport-specific schedules. We then dive into their sport-specific IQ, their existing technical skills, their opinions regarding the demands of physical fitness, mental tenacity, and their emotional skill sets. All assets and liabilities are assessed before a customized developmental plan is put into effect.

This organizational process of designing an athletic blueprint should be the parent’s primary responsibility but is most often left to chance. Parents who take the time to develop a customized plan put their child in a position to maximize their potential at a faster rate. Note that for each stage of adolescence (early/mid/late), there are several standard developmental protocols that most coaches follow. I challenge you to go deeper.

 

“ASSESSING YOUR CHILD’S ABILITIES AND DEVELOPING A CUSTOMIZED GAME PLAN BEGINS WITH UNDERSTANDING THEIR INBORN STRENGTHS AND WEAKNESSES. THEIR BRAIN TYPE AND BODY TYPE PLAY THE MOST IMPORTANT ROLE IN UNDERSTANDING THEIR DEVELOPMENTAL PATHWAY.”

Athletic Lesson- The Laundry List

Posted on October 31, 2017 by in Parent Player Communication, Raising Athletic Royalty

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ADVERSITY

LESSON:  The Laundry List

“Great game men,” said Coach Stevens. “You guys are improving every week. We are one heck of a football team! Every one of you gave it your all out there and I’m so proud! Keep up the good work! I’ll see you Tuesday at 4:00 p.m. at Riley Park for practice… READY BREAK!”

Every kid was smiling and laughing walking off the game day field, except for Randy.

Randy knew what was to come. As he slowly headed toward his father’s car his stomach was a churning ball of knots. Randy added a limp to his gait to support the ever-present fake injury. He placed his cell phone in hand to begin to text his friend about homework the moment he got into the car. These were just a few of the aversion tactics Randy regularly employed to lessen the barrage of criticism that was sure to come from his father. If he pretended to be injured and was addressing the importance of homework he needed to complete, then his father may go easy on him.

You see Randy’s dad believed that he was actually helping Randy by watching every game and compiling a detailed laundry list of Randy’s failed plays, mistakes and improvement issues. Randy’s dad didn’t even realize that he was destroying his son’s confidence and self-esteem by pointing out his every flaw. No matter how good Randy was, it was not good enough. No matter how long Randy trained, it was not long enough. No matter how many things Randy fixed, his dad would find more flaws.

Mr. Wilson did not have a clue that the only thing he was cultivating was excuses, no effort and zero enjoyment for the sport, not to mention a seriously unhealthy family environment. After all, why in the world would Randy want to play if it only led to a new laundry list of why he’s so slow, uncoordinated and stupid?

Parents, remember that the only comments you should make directly after competition are motivational and positive comments like: “I wish I had the guts to go out there and perform like that.”, “I think it’s so cool watching you out there.”, “You’re getting better and better everything day.”, “Did you have fun out there today?” or “You’re playing great; let me know if I can help you with anything!” Motivating the growth you seek comes from optimism and not from pessimism. Continually reminding your children of their failures is futile. Instead, after each game or practice session, support your child’s efforts with love and praise.

If you or your spouse possess this dreaded parental laundry list of failure disease, begin to replace the list of negative remarks with positive ones.

If you deeply feel that your laundry list is insightful and important to the growth of your child, I suggest asking the coach if you can email the list to him after the game. Then ask him if he can pay special attention to those issues. Chances are that your child will accept the valid feedback if it is presented by the coach instead of the parent. A good coach should have a better way of presenting the issues in an optimistic and positive light.

 

 

STRATEGIES AND TACTICS

Posted on October 20, 2017 by in Raising Athletic Royalty

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“A GREAT STRATEGY IS TO AVOID ALLOWING THE OPPONENTS TO APPLY THEIR STRENGTHS COMFORTABLY.”

 

“Strategy requires pre-game tactical development as well as game time observation and opponent profiling.”

 

“THE X’S & O’S OF SUCCESSFUL COMPETITION SHOULD BE BASED ON THE HIGH PERCENTAGE PLAYS NOT THE EXCEPTIONS TO THE RULES.”

 

Winners

Posted on October 10, 2017 by in Raising Athletic Royalty

 

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“EVERY ATHLETE IS BORN WITH NATURAL EFFICIENCIES. CHAMPIONS ARE BROUGHT TO LIFE BY OVERCOMING THEIR NATURAL DEFICIENCIES.”

 

 “Winners have the faith to jump off a cliff …and believe they have the skills to figure out how to land on the way down.”

 

“WINNING STEMS FROM CHOOSING THE HARDER CHOICES EVERY DAY.”

 

“Every winner has felt the pain of losing but chooses to battle on.”

 

“SHOW ME A WINNER, AND I’LL SHOW YOU A PERSON THAT DOES WHAT OTHERS ARE TOO WEAK TO DO.”

 

 

 

 

 

Unity

Posted on October 7, 2017 by in Raising Athletic Royalty

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Parent Player Coach UNITY

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“TOGETHER THROUGH SPORTS, SHARE THE JOURNEY OF MAKING MEMORIES.”

 

“Routinely Unite Your Entourage To Keep Everyone Focused On Prioritizing The Challenges.”

“PARENTS, WHEN UNITING THE ENTOURAGE, ENGAGE WITH QUESTIONS AND NOT YOUR OPINION.”

“Team unity starts with everyone sharing the same moral compass.”

“INVOLVE THE ATHLETE IN THE DECISION MAKING. OWNERSHIP COMES FROM THE CHILD BEING SELF-RELIANT.”

“Unite the team with a purpose bigger than your athlete. Inspire and challenge your child’s coaches and trainers. By raising their bar, you’ll improve the sport. ”

“PARENTING YOUNG ATHLETES WITHOUT A CUSTOMIZED NAVIGATIONAL SYSTEM IS A LOT LIKE TRAVELING THE GLOBE WITHOUT A MAP.”

 

“Parents, your legacy will be based on how well you inspired your children.”

Sacrifice

Posted on October 4, 2017 by in Raising Athletic Royalty

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SACRIFICE

 

“YOU CAN’T BE A NORMAL TEEN AND A CHAMPION. CHAMPIONS ARE BORN OF GREAT SACRIFICE.”

 

“Parents, plan on missing summer activities and most traditional holidays. That’s when most nationals take place.”

 

“SERIOUS ATHLETES PUT THEIR SPORT AHEAD OF THEIR SOCIAL LIFE.”

 

“Selfish parents who aren’t willing to sacrifice shouldn’t expect championship results in their children.”

 

“YOU MUST BE WILLING TO SACRIFICE SOMETHING GOOD TO GET SOMETHING GREAT.”

RESILIENCY In Sports

Posted on October 1, 2017 by in Raising Athletic Royalty

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RESILIENCY 

 

“DURING COMPETITION, IT’S THE SPEED THAT YOU RECOVER FROM MISTAKES THAT OFTEN SEPARATES THE WINNERS FROM THE LOSERS.”

 

“Self-control in sports often refers to how one reacts to hardships.”

 

“HIGH-PERFORMANCE ATHLETES HAVE MASTERED THE ART OF RESILIENCY.”

 

“Resilient thinkers aren’t reduced by a loss, they are challenged by it.”

 

“RESILIENT ATHLETES DON’T OVER THINK, THEY SIMPLY ADAPT.”

 

“Success is not judged by winning or losing. In athletic competition, you can perform above your current peak level and still lose. You can also perform way below your personal best and sometimes win.”

 

Perseverance

Posted on September 26, 2017 by in Raising Athletic Royalty

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PERSEVERANCE

 

“PERSEVERANCE IS THE ABILITY TO HANDLE HARDSHIP.”

 

“In most sports, perseverance under pressure trumps perfect form.”

 

“PERSEVERANCE AND PERSISTENCE TRUMP RAW TALENT AND I.Q.”

 

“Successful athletes find a way to win even when they’re performing below their peak performance level.”

 

“WISDOM TELLS US THAT WE NEED DEVASTATING DEFEATS TO BUILD UP OUR EMOTIONAL MUSCLES.”

 

“Perseverance requires confidence and the will to fight- without it, technique is meaningless.”

 

“PERSEVERANCE IS HAVING THE COURAGE TO TRY AGAIN TOMORROW.”