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Tennis Top Ten Secret Skills Number 7

Resilience

Your real successes lie where comfort meets discomfort. You’ve got to embrace discomfort.”

Frank Giampaolo

High-performance tennis is a roller coaster of ups and downs, victories and defeats. It’s a sport where triumphs and setbacks often occur within a single tournament. It’s where your mental fortitude can be your greatest ally or fiercest opponent. This is another hidden trait that defines champions.

Resilience is the ability to bounce back from adversity, withstand the pressures of competition, and view losses as opportunities for growth rather than dead-ends. It’s a skill forged in the heat of competition, where your response to challenges can make all the difference.

Successful athletes don’t let the downs keep them down. Instead, they use every setback as a learning tool. They understand that losses are not failures but lessons and are eager to learn from what happened. Resilience is about having the attitude that there’s always something to improve in the four pillars of the game: strokes, athleticism, mental, and emotional.

One of the critical aspects of resilience is the ability to analyze and learn from your performance. Successful athletes often engage in match-play video analysis with a mental coach. This process allows them to pinpoint areas that need improvement, identify patterns in their play, and make strategic adjustments.

Resilience isn’t just about bouncing back; it’s also about bouncing forward- the hidden skill that propels you to new heights after a setback, making you stronger, wiser, and more determined.

By understanding the role of resilience in your tennis career, you can develop the mental toughness required to navigate the inevitable ups and downs. Resilience is the trait that propels you toward success, both on and off the court.

Tennis Top Ten Secrets for Success Number 2

The following is an excerpt from Frank’s upcoming Playbook Series.

Discipline

Discipline is what connects your dreams to your accomplishment.” Frank Giampaolo

Success in high-performance tennis is rooted in the commitment to discipline—the second hidden skill that separates champions from the rest. Discipline is the driving force that propels you towards your goals and bridges the gap between ambition and achievement.

If you were to observe the daily lives of elite tennis players, you would witness a relentless dedication to their craft. The hours spent on the court, in the gym, and mental training are all testament to the discipline that underpins their success. They understand that reaching their tennis goals requires consistent, methodical effort, and they are willing to put in the work.

Discipline is not just about following a strict routine but cultivating positive habits. Over time, these habits become part of your daily life, ingrained in your character. The choices you make, day in and day out, shape your journey and determine your destiny.

Your positive choices today become your habits tomorrow. And these habits, in turn, become your routines. Your routines propel you toward your goals, whether those are related to tennis or any other area of life.

Discipline extends beyond the physical realm. It encompasses mental toughness, the ability to handle the typical negative chatter in the mind. That is what sets champions apart.

In tennis, discipline means more than just showing up for practice and hitting balls. It means practicing intentionally, setting clear goals, and constantly pushing yourself past your preconceived limitations. It means making the tough decisions that align with your long-term objectives, even when faced with short-term temptations.

The disciplined approach is not easy; it requires sacrifice. It demands that you prioritize your improvement goals above immediate gratification. It means saying no to temptations that may derail your progress. But the rewards of discipline are immeasurable. Discipline is the foundation upon which champions are built.

By understanding the role of discipline in your tennis journey, you’ll be better equipped to thrive in competition.

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“Winning isn’t the way to happiness … Happiness is the way to winning.”


 

Teach Happiness

At the heart of a tennis parent’s job description is to teach happiness. Happier athletes are more likely to play longer, develop deeper skill sets, perform more freely, become successful tennis athletes, and become accomplished adults. Neuroscientists report that just hearing another person laugh triggers mirror neurons in the brain—these mirror neurons insight laughter. Interestingly, to date, Harvard University’s most popular class is a happiness course taught by Dr. Tal Ben-Shahar.

Solution: Parental guidance greatly influences an athlete’s success, especially through modeling – children do what you do and not necessarily what you say. So, if you want to nurture happier athletes, the first step is to show happiness. Focus on the positive and avoid stressing the negative. Your happiness or disappointment affects your athlete tremendously. Joy and laughter are contagious, so laugh with your children daily. There is a time and a place for correction but be sure to lighten the mood on tournament days and enjoy the journey.

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Chapter One Excerpt- Nurturing Happiness

 

Praise Effort, Not Results

When parents say, “Ethan, if you win the whole event, we’ll buy you a new computer game!”

The reality is that winning is out of Ethan’s control. An athlete can influence winning a tournament but can’t control it. There are far too many variables to manage in a match. Outcome goals create an anxious environment and obstruct the learning process. Parents should instead encourage process goals and view each match as a learning experience. The research is very consistent: praise effort, not results.

Solution: Replace this outcome bribe with an attainable goal, “Ethan, if you hit your three performance goals each match this event, we’ll buy you a new computer game.” Now Ethan is given a goal within his control.

After the tournament, parents should avoid discussing the laundry list of mistakes their athletes made during the match. This negative list of faults destroys your athlete’s self-esteem and confirms that they are broken and unworthy. Parents should send their match notes to their athlete’s coach, and the coach can address the issues during practice. Avoid a post-match verbal attack.

Lastly, parents avoid using their friend’s success against them. Praising their rival’s positive results compounds the pressure. Praising your athlete’s effort instead keeps them focused on the improvement process.

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CHAPTER 1: Nurturing Happiness

  • Teach Happiness
  • Happiness is a State of Being
  • The Habit of Happiness
  • Gratitude
  • Heart-Based Parenting
  • Praise Effort not Results

 

CHAPTER 2: Behind the Curtain

  • The Multi-Sport Theory
  • Successful Parental Habits
  • Old School Parenting
  • Emotional Regulation
  • Mentors
  • Teach Independence vs Dependence
  • Chicken Blood

 

CHAPTER 3: Parental Dialog

  • The Investment
  • Parental Insecurities
  • Post-Match Banter
  • Always and Never
  • Correct Conversations
  • The Psychology of Listening
  • Ask Don’t Tell

 

CHAPTER 4: Stacking Momentum

  • Preparation
  • Stacking Momentum
  • Executing Momentum
  • Fueling Momentum
  • Heart Rate Monitoring
  • Training Blocks

 

CHAPTER 5: Mindset Matters

  • Decisions Not Situations
  • Substandard Loyalties
  • Why We Choke
  • Argumentative Athlete
  • Practice Being Likeable
  • Unplug to Reboot

 

CHAPTER 6: Thriving Versus Suffering

  • The Suffering
  • Intangibles
  • Negative Character Traits
  • Psychosomatic Dramas
  • Parental Stressors
  • Thriving vs Suffering
  • Spotting Anomalies

 

CHAPTER 7: Sabotaging Athletic Performance

  • When Advice Creates Drama
  • Suffering Defeat X 3
  • Life Skills Through Tennis
  • Knowledge Versus Wisdom
  • Discomfort Is Good
  • What If’s
  • Visiting Their Peak Level

 

CHAPTER 8: Change Equals Improvement

  • Avoidance versus Exposure
  • Competitive Pressure Triggers
  • Comfort Is Where Dreams Go to Die
  • Changing Inner Belief
  • Losing to Lesser Players
  • Trimming the Fat
  • The Pain of Changing

 

CHAPTER 9: Frustration Tolerance

  • Understanding frustration
  • Managing Frustration
  • Desensitizing To Hardships
  • Did You win?
  • Perfectionism

 

CHAPTER 10: Concentration and Focus

  • Regulating Focus
  • Overthinking Mechanics
  • Limiting Distraction
  • Time Traveling
  • Living in the Present
  • Relaxed Observation

 

CHAPTER 11: Mental Fitness

  • Cherish the Obsession
  • Hey Jude
  • Mental Fitness
  • Monkey Mind
  • Constructing Confidence
  • Tennis on TV

CHAPTER 12: Match Day Concepts

  • The Cause of Poor Play
  • Assuming a Lack of Effort
  • The Losers Draw
  • Procrastination
  • Cheaters
  • Peaceful Warrior

 

CHAPTER 13: Self-Coaching

  • Flipping Negative Inner Dialogue
  • Rock Paper Scissors
  • Positive Inner Dialogue
  • Identifying Internal Obstacles
  • Monitoring Outer Dialogue
  • Attention Seeking Negative Dialogue
  • Contaminating Thoughts

 

CHAPTER 14: Getting Good Vs. Earning Good

  • Getting Good Versus Earning Good
  • Replacement Thoughts
  • Attention to Details
  • Defeat Stimulates Growth
  • Learn to Die
  • Maximizing Progress
  • Dealing with Adversity

 

CHAPTER 15: Emotional Toughness

  • The Emotional Questionnaire
  • Where Attention Goes …Energy Flow
  • Experience Matters
  • Nurture the Warrior Mentality
  • Teaching Emotional Health
  • Performance Anxiety
  • Red Flags

 

CHAPTER 16 : Staring Down Fear

  • Self-Sabotage
  • Handling Fear
  • The Fault Finder
  • Staring Down Fear
  • Run Towards the Fire
  • Operating Under Pressure

 

CHAPTER 17 : Anticipation

  • Rudimentary Anticipation
  • The Secret of Pattern Recognition
  • Cognitive Ease
  • Situational Observation
  • Emotional Detachment
  • Modern Intelligence

 

CHAPTER 18: Anticipating Success

  • Training Anticipation
  • Set Them Up for Success
  • Mental Rehearsals
  • Parental Behavior
  • Kobe’s Approach
  • Six Anticipatory Skills

 

CHAPTER 19: Leadership

  • Characteristics of Leaders
  • Relationship Building
  • Reality Check
  • Get into their World
  • Pattern BlocksTraining Time

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“Frank Giampaolo has written a sacred text for maximizing athletic potential.”

Jon Wertheim, Editor Sports Illustrated, Author, Tennis Channel, 60 Minutes

 

“Frank continues to create tools for tennis players and families to help navigate the pathways of development. This book offers invaluable knowledge to help players & parents navigate the emotional aspects of the competitive environment in a healthy and productive way. A must read, Bravo Frank.”

Paul Annacone, Former Top 40 ATP, Coach of Taylor Fritz, Roger Federer, Pete Sampras

 

“This is an impressive and hard-hitting book. As a clinical psychologist, I strongly recommend it to any parent who wants to help a child reach peak performance. Giampaolo is a celebrated and sought-after tennis coach who understands what works and what doesn’t. Each chapter is power-packed and filled with sound advice on how to maximize performance. There’s no psychobabble here, only what makes practical on-the-court sense. Don’t just buy it. Study and apply its principles as you encourage your child toward athletic excellence.”

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How do we assist our son in decreasing his unforced errors? Part 1

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black_ebook_design2How do we assist our son in decreasing his unforced errors?

All of his coaches say he is one of the most talented players they have ever seen. His form looks great. Why does he lose to less talented players? Let’s look deeper into the different causes of errors, starting with the mental side.

Shot selection starts with understanding that in between each shot in a rally, there are only about two milliseconds of actual decision-making time. So, how much can you analyze in that small amount of time? The answer is not much. This means that most shot selection options are learned behaviors acquired on the practice court. That is right. These tools must be wired into a player’s game way before the tournament begins. This is mental training.

To explain the importance of shot selection, we will use two of my students, Jack and Jason (brothers that couldn’t be more different). Jason has chosen to focus on tennis’s mental/emotional sides early in his development, while Jack was and still is too cool to listen to this silly stuff.

Strength and Weaknesses

Situation: It is add-in. Holding serve means a comfortable 5-2 lead.

Jason: Selects to serve a big kick serve wide to the opponent’s weaker side; He runs a boring, successful pattern to close out the game.

Jack: Selects to go for a huge ace down the center (the one that he made once in 2010); He misses, gets angry, and rushes into a double fault.

Broad Vision

Situation: Our player just hit an offensive shot and has the opponent on the dead run; the opponent is stretching and lunging at a low slice backhand.

Jason: Spots the visual clues like the defensive court position, body language, open racket face, and defensive strike zone of the opponent. He moves in, takes away the opponent’s recovery time, and steals an easy volley winner.

Jack: Didn’t bother to learn to spot these clues, so he stands at the baseline, lets the opponent float the ball back, and he re-starts the rally. Jack just missed an

Tennis Player Accountibilty- Thriving Under Pressure

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frankPLAYER ACCOUNTABILITY

Player accountability stems from a champion’s mindset- which includes a positive moral compass, core values, and a high standard of behavior. Teach your children that even though the hardest path is often the road less traveled- it is also the quickest way to the top!

 

QUESTION: Why do some athletes thrive under extreme pressure and some meltdown?

 

Frank: Here’s my understanding of how the brain functions under stress. Nobel Prize-winning Neuro-Scientist Julius Axelrod found that some people crack under pressure more than others because they process slower and become overwhelmed in time-sensitive stressful environments.

In the brain, this is seen as an over-flow of dopamine in the prefrontal cortex (Where quick decision-making and conflict resolution take place.) Stress floods the synapses of the prefrontal cortex with too much dopamine. After the flood, the gene called COMT (catechol-O-methyltransferase) is stimulated to come to the rescue…

Scientists have found that this gene actually comes in two types: fact-acting and slow acting. Those athletes with fast-acting COMT enzymes clear the excess dopamine quickly, allowing the athlete, not to overload. Those with slow-moving enzymes cause some folks to overload and shut down under stress.

The good news for these natural-born worry warts is that if they rehearse being comfortable with the feelings of being uncomfortable, their dopamine doesn’t overflow the prefrontal cortex. Meaning performing under pressure isn’t felt as such intense pressure any longer. You see, what becomes a habit, isn’t as scary. So if your child melts down under stress, ask their team of coaches to add stress simulations to their daily drills and watch your child become “clutch.”

 

QUESTION: Why do some juniors see a performance review as character assassination?

 

Frank: Successfully navigating the world requires continual analysis and review. An effective developmental plan needs to be tweaked and enhanced for continued growth. The art of becoming athletic royalty demands the player, coach, and parent communicate about the developmental direction. Players that thrive in the college world have nurtured their communication skills as well as their athletic skills.

Unfortunately, some juniors view performance reviews as lengthy rants pointing out all of their failures. Of course, in the eyes of an experienced coach or parent, performances are actually seen as information-gathering missions- not as life or death or win-or-lose affairs.

Performance reviews are a beautiful chance to discuss issues (successes and failures) so successes continue to increase, and failures decrease in the future. Ignoring successes or failures and assuming they all happen by chance is delusional.

Juniors who don’t bother to learn from their shortcomings are destined to repeat them. I challenge the coaches/parents to communicate with their child about the event. Dig deeper, learn from the facts and review the stats, charts, and video analysis. Juniors, try your best to understand why you’re not getting the results you’re capable of getting.

Tennis Player Accountibility- Playing like Nadal?

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QUESTION: Should my son copy Nadal?

 

Frank: Before I answer this question, let’s review some of the facts I love about Rafael Nadal…and you should too.

His Uncle taught him how to play. They’ve stuck together as a team. That’s respectful. At 14, The Spanish Federation invited him to train in Barcelona, essentially taking over his training.  He already had a great team so he declined. That’s loyalty.

As a youngster, his emotions were like a volcano, so his uncle made him play with dead balls and inferior gear to teach him how to deal with adversity. That builds character.

  • Nadal has an entourage: His coaches, trainers, hitters, and agent has been with him for the long haul. That’s smart!
  • Nadal has a pre-match routine that he uses before every match: He gets to the site a few hours early to warm up on a side court; he showers, eats, then gets taped up; he plays the match in his head (visualization) a half hour before it begins; he puts on his favorite Spanish pop music and then The Phantom of The Opera on his iPod; he jogs, jumps in place and builds a sweat while visualizing his performance goals. Great preparation- that’s admirable!
  • Nadal focuses on the need to improve versus the need to win. Rafa was quoted as saying, “To improve, you have to make mistakes.  That’s the problem with improving; you have to accept this.” That’s intelligent!

In early 2008 at #2 in the world, Uncle Tony decided that Rafa needed to improve his offensive court position to win major hard and grasscourt events. They worked on positioning on the baseline for months, taking balls early, and stealing volleys.   He went from being a retriever to a counterpuncher to an attacker. Knowing he could still improve, Rafa’s insight yielded him an Olympic gold, a Wimbledon Championship, and the world’s #1 ranking. That’s brilliant!

  • Rafa has had more than his share of injuries yet comes back stronger than ever.  That’s character!  (2004- A stress fracture took him off the court for three months; 2005- a mysterious foot injury sidelined him for months; 2009- knee tendentious took him out for two months… the list goes on.)
  • Rafa is a well-rounded person who has outside interests and hobbies. He can be found enjoying golf and fishing on his days off. He also champions his own charity foundation called Fundacion Rafa Nadal.  That’s honorable!
  • Rafa is disciplined. The next step after motivation is discipline. He does what he has to do when he has to do it.  No excuses, no procrastination. That’s commitment!

So, should your son copy Rafa? You Bet!

Below are tips your child can implement to attain Champion Skill Sets like Rafa Nadal:

  • Hit the gym to gain tennis-specific strength.
  • Commit to improving with unrelenting determination.
  • Develop the mental side of shot selection to master offense, neutral & defensive skills.
  • Schedule time to strengthen their speed, stamina, and agility.
  • Revise their between-point rituals to enhance their “clear-headedness” of shot selection on big points.
  • Upgrade their ability to apply spin.
  • Cultivate the competitive attitude. Do this by adding simulated stress with every drill. We call them “stress buster drills.”
  • Perfect the ability to live in the moment (producing precisely what the moment calls for) by rehearsing closing-out sets. Replace the need to win with the love of the battle.
  • Reform their calmness under stress by simulating those intense moments.

 

FUN FACT: Average ball rotation off Agassi’s forehand: 1800 rpm, Federer’s forehand: 2500 rpm, Nadal’s forehand: 3200 rpm

The mental and emotional strength of being a fierce competitor and a respectful human being is a learned behavior and is a factor in player accountability.

SPECIAL NOTE: No one can outperform their self-image. Due to their work ethic, perseverance, and consistent discipline, athletes like Rafa have inner strength and inner excellence. They truly believe in themselves and their abilities because they’ve earned the belief.