The following post is an excerpt from Frank’s newest book, The Soft Science of Tennis.
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Effective Listening- Part 5
Some athletes affirm positive results while others affirm catastrophe. Researchers continue to acknowledge the power thoughts have on one’s actions. Studies show how thoughts, beliefs, and emotions affect human behavior. Following, I have listed a handful of tennis-specific phrases from the mouths of our athletes and you can bet your life these habitual beliefs affect their match performance.
Pessimistic athletes project performance anxieties with statements such as:
- “I’m always worried about failing.”
- “I’m not good enough for that level.”
- “I’m not ready to compete.”
- “I can’t do it…I always blow it.”
- “I’m not jealous but how is Kelly playing #1 and not me?”
- “I have to win tomorrow or my life is over.”
- “I don’t belong here.”
- “I hate this…I hate that…”
Optimistic athletes project self-esteem and confidence with statements such as:
- “I can’t wait to compete tomorrow.”
- “I respect him but I’m going to beat him.”
- “Competing is fun!”
- “I trained properly and I’m confident in my awesome ability.”
- “I’m grateful for the privilege of playing.”
- “I trust my game and problem-solving skills.”
- “I love the competitive tennis lifestyle.”
- “I appreciate all the love and support from my parents and coaches.”
“A man is but the product of his thoughts – what he thinks, he becomes.”
Mahatma Gandhi
Applying Positive Affirmations
If one’s thoughts become one’s reality, what exactly is a positive affirmation? A positive affirmation is a positive declaration or assertion. As optimistic thoughts sink into one’s subconscious mind, they become a self-fulfilling prophecy overriding old negative beliefs and habits with positive beliefs and rituals. Positive affirmations sound like silly fluff to specific personality profiles but they are proven methods of emotional improvement. When applied religiously, positive affirmations have the ability to rewire the chemistry in your athlete’s brain. Elite athletes believe in their potential.
Assignment
Ask your athletes to customize ten positive affirmations that will help their self-esteem and confidence. Then ask them to read them aloud into their cell phone voice-recorder app. Finally, ask them to listen to their customized recording nightly as they are falling asleep. As they mentally rehearse their optimistic views, new solution-based habits are formed and negative beliefs are dissolved.
Effective Listening doesn’t stop with verbal language. A great deal of information is available from the athlete without them saying a single word. The next chapter addresses the high IQ coach’s secret ability to zero in on gathering critical information via non-verbal communication.
