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Tennis Anxiety Value- Part 4

The following post is an excerpt from Frank’s Amazon #1 New Tennis Book Release, Preparing for Pressure.

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Everyone says, ‘JUST PLAY YOUR GAME,’ but I don’t know what my game is?”Frank Giampaolo

 

“Top contenders have defined their global style & most proficient patterns of play.”

Upon arrival at a coaching gig in Spain, I noticed the coaches on all the red clay courts running the same drill. Player A hits a high & heavy ball deep to player B’s backhand. Player B retreats, contacting the ball above his/her shoulders, and produces a short reply. Player A moves into no-man’s land and screeches “AHH …HEEE” and drives a winner into the open court. I asked the famous director, “What’s the drill they’re all working on?” He laughed and said, we call it, “How to beat the Americans.”

Athletes should start each match with their global style of play. Whether they’re in Miami or Moscow, in the first round or finals, on hard or clay courts, starting matches by doing what they do best is an intelligent formula. Their global system is their most proficient style of play (not necessarily their favorite style). Styles include hard-hitting baseliners, counterpunchers, retrievers, and net rushers.

The athlete’s global system also includes their repeatable strategic plan – which is their most proficient patterns of play. These patterns need to be designed and developed. They include: serving and return patterns, rally patterns (like the above Spanish group), short ball options, and net rushing plays.

In competition, each athlete has to know what they do best and must routinely apply their global plan and hitting the same old, boring winners over and over.

 

Every player should know and have had rehearsed their strongest, repeatable patterns of play.
Then, choose to play those patterns in matches.

 

Tennis Anxiety Issues- Part 3

The following post is an excerpt from Frank’s Amazon #1 New Tennis Book Release, Preparing for Pressure.

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“Prepare both hardware & software components for battle!”

Preparing for pressure demands more than merely warming up one’s fundamental strokes. The week leading up to the event is a terrific time for the athlete to organize their clothes, equipment, and nutrition and hydration requirements. For example, early preparation allows leeway if the athlete unknowingly is out of his favorite strings or their lucky shorts are in the wash.

Come game day, I recommend athletes prepare their mental and emotional components by reviewing their pre-recorded audio tapes the morning of the match. Complete a dynamic stretch and warm-up their primary and secondary strokes with multitasking movement. (Hitting on the move instead of just standing still.) Prior to checking in, hydrate and go for a short run to reduce anxiety and warm-up the body.

 

Preparing for pressure requires the confidence that comes from complete preparation.

 


 

Tennis Anxiety Issues- Part 2

The following post is an excerpt from Frank’s Amazon #1 New Tennis Book Release, Preparing for Pressure.

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“I don’t want to play, what if I lose?”

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“Devalue the event to deflate the anxiety.”

A common outcome-oriented mindset is that each tournament is a life or death crisis. This negative frame of mind is counterproductive and incredibly stressful. It would be wise to educate the athlete and their entourage that tournament play is only an information-gathering mission. Each match should be analyzed to determine why they won points or lost points as a result of their competitive decisions. The objective is simple, quantify the data and learn from it.

Competition should be seen as a fun challenge, not intensely difficult or dangerous.

 

Destress the situation by decompressing the athlete.

 

Tennis Anxiety Issues- Part 1

The following post is an excerpt from Frank’s Amazon #1 New Tennis Book Release, Preparing for Pressure.

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PERFORMANCE ANXIETIES

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Most athletes experience performance anxiety. It’s only natural when being judged. Performance Anxieties Insights were written as a guide to problem-solving real-life fears through exposure versus avoidance. Exposing an athlete in practice to match-day stressors helps to desensitize the athlete to their anxieties.

Each player’s genetic predisposition and upbringing play critical roles in the amount of stress they choose to suffer.

Often at tournaments, I witness role models (parents and coaches) who are far too focused on the outcome. When this occurs, the athlete is sure to follow with timid play, which is a sign of an outcome-oriented athlete on the verge of self-destruction.

On a deeper level, we as parents and coaches want our athletes to experience consistent, daily satisfaction. This type of long term happiness doesn’t come from winning tennis trophies. Instead, it stems from constant, daily growth. Confidence skyrockets only when the athlete’s effort and parental praise is placed on improvement versus winning. By focusing on the effort versus the outcome, performance anxieties are diminished. Let’s look at a few common performance anxieties.

 

 

Teaching Tennis Life Skills

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“False promises are a form of self-sabotage.”

Confidence is built when athletes know they can rely on themselves. The top contenders that I’ve had the privilege of working with routinely matched their intentions and their actions on a daily basis. Procrastination and excuses are left to the weaker players. The fragile athletes avoid keeping promises.

Improvement typically stems from changing behavior. And changing behavior requires a commitment to training. Athletes choosing not to keep their commitments with themselves are destined to suffer when the pressure begins.

Athletes who have problems with matching their words with their actions would be wise to commit to a simple 30-day challenge. The task is to complete a 5-minute nightly journal. Listing five of their tennis related daily accomplishments that will significantly assist them in staying on track.

Often junior players say, I want to be a top player. But their actions say I want to be a normal kid. It is important to remind athletes that they cannot be a Champion and a normal kid.  They have to pick one because the pathway to becoming a Champion is far different than the path for normal kids.

 

Keeping promises makes the athlete … Breaking promises breaks the athlete.


 

Pre-Match Sabotage

The following post is an excerpt from Frank’s Amazon #1 New Tennis Book Release, Preparing for Pressure.

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Meet the Kolouski’s – A familiar Mother/Father duo who unintentionally sabotage any real chance of their daughter playing at her peak performance level.

Martha Kolouski’s Saturday Morning Pre-Match Routine:

  • Wakes up tightly wound.
  • Doesn’t like Kelly’s choice of outfit.
  • Upset about her chewing at breakfast.
  • Peeved about the poor directions.
  • Annoyed about catching every red light.

Martha’s at the end of her rope & Kelly’s match is still an hour away. Guess who is sabotaging any real chance of Kelly performing at her peak performance level?

After Saturday’s poor performance, Mark decides to take Kelly to the event on Sunday.

 

 

Mark Kolouski’s Sunday Morning Pre-Match Pep Talk:

  • Ok, Kelly…she’s ranked 98 spots ahead of us.
  • Our ranking will skyrocket into the top 20 – if you don’t blow it!
  • Remember, she cheats and will push- so focus!
  • This is the most important match of the year for us -by far!
  • We spent $2000.00 to get you here….so don’t expect us to keep on forking over hard-earned money if you lose!

 

Once again, guess who is sabotaging any real change of Kelly performing at her peak performance level?

NAVIGATING THE ATHLETE’S PATHWAYS

The following post is an excerpt from the Second Edition of The Tennis Parent’s Bible NOW available through most online retailers!  Click Here to Order

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NAVIGATING THE ATHLETE’S PATHWAYS

Regardless of the stage of development, parents should seek coaches and trainers with high tennis IQ’s and optimistic attitudes- which will stimulate growth and happiness. Hire great educators to join your elite team and they will take your child beyond your wildest dreams.

SIGNS OF A HIGH IQ TENNIS COACH

Here are a few insights to remember when seeking a new coach. Great tennis coaches offer the necessary hands-on involvement with as little coddling as possible.

“Great coaches don’t need you or your athlete…you need them.”

They deeply understand the depth of the science behind the strokes while considering the athlete’s personal flair. A great coach offers structure with the freedom to explore. Lastly, a great coach is a team player who always puts their students’ needs above their own.

Characteristics of an Elite Tennis Coach:

  • Optimistic.
  • Encourages observation of his/her lessons.
  • Listens to you and your child.
  • Combines fun and laughter with serious learning.
  • Doesn’t use a one size fits all approach to development.
  • Understands personality profiling, brain typing & body typing.
  • Organizes a deliberate customize blueprint for your child’s development.
  • Eager to view your match charts and match video analysis (during scheduled lesson times.)
  • Help define parental roles and responsibilities.
  • Knowledgeable of the essential components of a high-performance tennis player.
  • Understands the importance of positive parental behaviors.
  • Assist in organizing an entourage of mental/emotional trainers, off-court fitness experts, and physical therapists- as needed.
  • Assist in the logistics of raising athletic royalty.
  • Available for monthly entourage team meetings.
  • Welcomes parent’s emails and progressive dialogue.
  • Helps organize the player’s weekly developmental schedule.
  • Assist in organizing the player’s tournament schedule.
  • Encourage parents to use tools such as Reading Raising Athletic Royalty.
  • Conducts parental workshops.
  • Recommend that the parents educate themselves through seminars, workshops, and educational materials.
  • Teach life lessons through the sport of tennis.
  • Willing and able to be a mediator between the child and the parent.

 

Parents, world-class coaches are very hard to find. Finding one with free time in their busy schedule is even tougher.

 

“Plan on compensating your elite coach for their time on-court and off-court. If you find one with the above characteristics, hold onto them for dear life.”

 

The Tennis Parents and Frank Giampaolo- Part 4

The following post is an excerpt from the Second Edition of The Tennis Parent’s Bible NOW available through most online retailers!  Click Here to Order

 

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Frank Giampaolo’s original Tennis Parent’s Bible is nearing 10 years with a second edition published in 2016 and it is still considered a must-read for all parents of tennis players.  Read a few more testimonials!

“If you’re a parent who thinks you already know all there is to know…hold on because you’re in for a bumpy ride.  This book is like turning a light on in a darkened room. I highly recommend it to any parent or coach serious about maximizing player potential.”

Angel Lopez, USPTA Master Professional, PTR Certified, Angel Lopez Tennis Academy

 

“I have been involved with tennis for 60 years and I have witnessed the development of the modern game. Frank has put together the most complete manual for Parents, coaches and players. I learned a lot from this book. It’s a must for every Parent and Coach who want to make the least amount of mistakes.”

Carlos A. Kirmayr, Centro De Treinamento Kirmayr, Brazil

 

“My favorite thing about Frank Giampaolo is his willingness to tell it like it is, no sugar-coating. We parents are sometimes treated too delicately by our child’s tennis coach for fear of upsetting the status quo. I know I can always rely on Frank to be brutally honest in our interviews and conversations which helps ParentingAces readers do a much better job of navigating the Junior Tennis Journey.”

Lisa Stone, ParentingAces.com

 

“Frank is a skilled lecturer & a top teacher. Now as an author, Frank has written one of the most important developmental books I’ve seen in my 60 years of teaching. This should be required reading for every inspiring parent, player or coach!”

The Late Vic Braden’s Review of the First Edition of The Tennis Parent’s Bible

How to Attract a College Athletic Scholarship THIRD EDITION

COMING SOON- AUGUST 29, 2020

How to Attract a College Athletic Scholarship 3rd Edition

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Frank has updated his college scholarship book.  For a short time, the ebook version will be priced at $1.99.  CLICK HERE TO ORDER

How to Attract a College Athletic Scholarship is a guide to help athletes and their parents navigate through the college tennis search process. Recognizing that not all schools offer athletic scholarships, academic scholarships, grants, and financial aid are available at most colleges. Scholarship or not, being a student-athlete is an incredible experience that offers invaluable life lessons and lifelong memories.

The Tennis Parents and Frank Giampaolo- Part 3

The following post is an excerpt from the Second Edition of The Tennis Parent’s Bible NOW available through most online retailers!  Click Here to Order

Frank Giampaolo’s original Tennis Parent’s Bible is nearing 10 years with a second edition published in 2016 and it is still considered a must-read for all parents of tennis players.  Read a few more testimonials!

 

INDUSTRY PROFESSIONAL TESTIMONIALS

 

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“This book is excellent. Parents need it. Coaches must have it! Broad topics with one goal: to make an athlete successful.”

Marcin Bieniek, Tennis Island Poland

 

“The Triangle between player, coach, and parent is full of speed bumps and sharp curves! Everyone wants to accelerate and speed ahead to the supposed finish line. Too often what should be a fun and rewarding journey gets forgotten. kudos to Frank for providing a roadmap to developing a better young tennis player, and a better relationship with their coaches and parents……..forever.

This is a great resource for every coach who wants to develop great players and most importantly, responsible young adults.”

Chuck Gill, President USPTA

 

“Frank Giampaolo has created a masterpiece for the competitive junior tennis player’s parents.  The Tennis Parent Bible, in its’ second edition, clearly spells out what tennis parents need to know and understand about how to navigate their tennis playing children through this maze of highly competitive and performance-driven tennis.  Don’t think about this one!  Just read it!”

Lane Evans, USPTA Elite Professional, iTPA Master Tennis Performance Specialist

 

“Frank is one of the most knowledgeable tennis coaches in the country. He has written, in my professional opinion, the best and most comprehensive tennis book for parents that I’ve read in my 55 –year tennis career.”

Desmond Oon, Ph.D., Former Davis Cup Coach (Republic of Singapore), Author, Master Pro USPTA

 

“A first-class book from a first-class coach. Frank is an encyclopedia of tennis knowledge, has extraordinary talents to share, and is a model of professionalism. When all of these components come together, an excellent book such as The Tennis Parent’s Bible appears.

By educating yourself, your children will have better results. This book is a must-read for parents to understand how to educate themselves and to appreciate the extensive process they, their children, and their coaches are undergoing while their children are developing their tennis skills.”

Shaul Zohar, Manager, Kiryat Shmona Israel Tennis Center

 

The Tennis Parents Bible should be mandatory reading (with an annual rotating online quiz) that’s required for ALL PARENTS for their children to play in USTA events! Seriously. If parent training was required, it could change this sport in a powerful way for generations!”

Joe Dinoffer, President, Oncourt Offcourt, Ltd., USPTA and PTR Master Professional, Dallas, Tx.

 

“Reading The Tennis Parents Bible is like having a delicious conversation with a tennis guru who is generously sharing all of his knowledge, results, and lessons learned. As a former tennis coach, I’ve recommended this to hundreds of tennis families who come back to me within days overjoyed and excited. They feel like they finally can put all the pieces of the puzzle together. Quite simply it’s your go-to guide that is already a classic must-read for every coach and tennis parent.”

Ian Bishop, CEO of Coachseek, New Zealand