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The Tennis Encyclopedia: INNER CHATTER

Posted on December 26, 2023 by in Maximizing Tennis Potential

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The following is an excerpt from Inner Chatter.

There’s been a bias in the tennis teaching world for far too long. The development of hardware (strokes and athleticism) has overshadowed software (mental and emotional) since the game began. As you intuitively know, the lack of education and training in mental and emotional skills causes the lion’s share of losses in high-performance matches. It’s my hope that The Tennis Encyclopedia playbooks encourage athletes, coaches, and parents to take the leading role in bringing to light the development of these essential mental and emotional skills.

In the realm of high-performance tennis, athletes are constantly challenged not only by their opponents but also by the relentless chatter within their minds. This inner dialogue can either be a powerful ally, propelling you toward greatness or a formidable adversary, holding you back from reaching your full potential.

The Tennis Encyclopedia: Inner Chatter was born from a deep understanding of your inner chatter’s impact on your performance. Inner Chatter was written for aspiring tennis players who want to unlock the secrets of using internal dialogue to their advantage.

Regardless of skill level, every athlete grapples with the endless thoughts that occupy their minds. We all have self-doubt, anxiety about the future, and reflections on the past. 

Ultimately, this playbook strives to guide you toward cultivating a healthy mind that is resilient, compassionate, and attuned to the unique demands of high-pressure tennis.

May you harness the power of your inner chatter to propel yourself to new heights and, above all, find joy and fulfillment in the sport you love.

UNDERSTANDING INNER CHATTER

In the world of high-performance tennis, it’s the mastery of the mind that often becomes the deciding factor. As an athlete, you are no stranger to the constant chatter within your mind. Inner dialogue is a powerful yet often underestimated force that shapes your performances.

1.1 The Nature of Inner Chatter

Before we dive deeper into the role of self-talk, let’s first understand what inner chatter truly means. At its core, self-talk is your ongoing conversation with yourself, whether talking out loud or silently in your mind. It’s the commentary on your actions, the analysis of your thoughts, and the judgments you pass on your performance.

1.2 Worrying and Speculating

Researchers have discovered that we spend a significant portion of our time engaging in inner chatter. A striking revelation is that about 40% of this mental chatter revolves around worrying about the past or speculating about the future.

1.3 The Positive Power of Inner Chatter

One of the remarkable aspects of self-talk is its potential to be a valuable ally in your development. When harnessed correctly, positive inner chatter is a tool to help you navigate future speculations. It’s like a mental simulator, running through potential plays and strategies, preparing you for what’s to come.

1.4 Self Coaching

Imagine the moments before a big match or during those crucial points in a breaker. Your inner chatter can become a vital ally by helping you visualize your best patterns, maintain focus, and control your actions. It’s not merely a commentator; it’s your strategic coach guiding you through the complexities of competition.

1.5 Tapping Into Your Superpowers

Positive self-talk doesn’t stop there. It plays a role in categorizing and storing valuable information gained from your experiences. It reminds you to play within your tennis identity, staying true to the style and systems of play that you’ve found success with. These are your tennis “superpowers,” and your inner dialogue can help you tap into them consistently.

1.6 How Negative Inner Chatter Hurts

Recognizing that your inner dialogue isn’t always your best friend is crucial. Negative self-talk can be a relentless adversary that hinders your performance in various ways. Here are a few:

  • Lack of Focus: Negative self-talk can pull your attention away from the present moment, making it difficult to concentrate on the task.
  • Strained Relationships: Constant negativity in your self-dialogue can affect your interactions with coaches and family members, damaging communication and collaboration.
  • Physical Effects: The emotions generated by negative self-talk can have tangible physical consequences, leading to unwanted tension and even chronic injuries.
  •  Reinforcing Negative Patterns: Negative inner dialogue has a nasty habit of perpetuating itself. One error can trigger a cascade of negativity, causing a downward spiral. Understanding these patterns is the first step towards taming your inner chatter.

Your ability to master your inner chatter is a game-changer. It can be a valuable asset to becoming a successful, high-performance player. So, fasten your seatbelt, for the exciting exploration of your inner words has just begun.

Tennis- Beyond the Comfort Zone

Posted on December 18, 2023 by in The Second Edition of The Tennis Parent's Bible

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Beyond the Comfort Zone

Elena was a naturally gifted athlete. She played years of sports, honing her athleticism. Elena dominated local girls’ 12’s tournaments. Yet, the allure of her comfort zone was too great. As we trained, change wasn’t a welcome topic. We often talked about her talent being confined within the invisible walls she built inside. I tried like crazy to motivate her to venture beyond her familiar boundaries. Elena wouldn’t budge. Her fixed mindset led her down over and over. Now a D-3 college player, her greatest memories are in the girls’ 12’s when she was the Southern California “It girl.” She was the one everyone predicted could go pro. Elena’s mindset serves as a reminder that genuine contenders need much more than strokes. They need the inner strength to face and then overcome the unfamiliar.

2.1 Stepping Beyond Boundaries

Within the competitive game, a stark truth emerges: True contenders aren’t content with staying within the confines of their comfort zone. They understand that the comfort zone while providing solace, is a place where growth remains elusive. Champions aren’t developed in comfort. They’re eager to test their limits and push themselves to evolve.

2.2 The Silent Opponent

Complacency is the silent killer. Recognize that to excel, you need to expand your horizons continually. Beyond the safety of routine lies the lessons where true growth occurs. The decision to venture beyond comfort is a deliberate choice that requires courage, an open mind, and the willingness to embrace the unknown.

2.3 Where Growth Occurs

The most impactful lessons are learned outside the familiar. Contender like Elana, who remained stagnant within their comfort zone, limited their potential. Athletes like you bravely explore uncharted territories and uncover hidden dimensions of strength. The game becomes a stage for competition and a playground for self-discovery and transformation.

Let Elena’s story inspire you to step outside your comfort zone, view challenges not as obstacles but as opportunities for transformation and recognize that only exploring the unfamiliar will reveal your true capabilities.

TENNIS: Changing Fixed Mindsets

Posted on December 12, 2023 by in The Second Edition of The Tennis Parent's Bible, The Soft Science of Tennis

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Changing Fixed Mindsets

Last week two top juniors, Steven and Josh were closing out one of their semi-private, two-hour sparring sessions. Josh from Boca Raton, Fl. has a natural inquisitive growth mindset. Steven, from San Francisco, California, possesses a defeatist attitude with his fixed mindset. Steven’s a perfectionist and believes only perfect performances are acceptable.

As Steven was leaving Josh asked me if he could ask me a couple of questions. While I was packing up my gear, Josh asked, “Being solid at crunch time isn’t something that just happens. It’s something you have to develop, right?” “Absolutely,” I replied. “Well, Steven’s doesn’t think he can win the whole Anaheim tournament next weekend, so he says he doesn’t want to go. He’ll probably fake an injury or something. His story is getting old. I don’t understand why he puts so much pressure on himself to win. Even though I want to win every tournament I enter, I’m happy to play well. You know one point at a time.  I hope to learn from my losses by working harder to improve. So by competing, I’m increasing my tennis intelligence and raising my level, right?”

I confirmed Josh’s position and then said, “A growth mindset is about the journey of seeking mastery, instead of viewing losses as catastrophic.  You can see losses as information gathering opportunities, and that buddy is why you’re going to be famous!” Josh smiled, rolled his eyes and said, “Good talk coach…good talk.”

We’ve all had students who have high IQ’s (Intelligence Quotient) but low EQ’s (Emotional Quotient). These athletes are wired to avoid risk while they witness others thrive in competition.

A challenge within The Soft Science of Tennis is to educate these students that their mindset is only their perception of their abilities. After the athlete’s stroke development is said and done, it’s their optimistic or pessimistic attitude that determines competitive success on the tennis court. It is within the parent and coaches job description to develop the power of belief along with a powerful forehand.

Fixed Mindset individuals innately believe that their abilities are inborn and unchangeable.

Growth Mindset individuals trust that their skill sets can and will be developed and improved.

In my observations, fixed mindset students are typically overly sensitive to being wrong. They see failing in competition as catastrophic. If they lose, it’s often something or someone else’s fault, and constructive criticism is taken as a personal insult. Changing this mindset is one of the most challenging roles of a parent or coach.

Recognize the Negative Dialog

Athletes with a pessimistic viewpoint have a running dialog that continually persuades them that they don’t honestly have enough talent, and if they fail, they will be criticized for trying. Many athletes invent an excuse or injury and avoid competition. By doing so, they keep their dignity and ego in check.

The following two solutions will help challenge the fixed mindset worrywart to consider adopting a growth mindset warrior attitude.

  1. Explain that Mindset Is a Choice

Their mental habit is to choose to interpret competition as a serious personal threat. Fixed mindset athletes are typically worried about what could and will go wrong versus what could and will go right. This pessimistic view tears down the will to give 100% effort. Changing from the fixed mindset to the growth mindset is challenging because the athlete has an onslaught of two simultaneous opposing demands. One is the need to suppress their pre-set, negative mental habit and two is to be open to learning to embrace the exact opposite viewpoint.

  • Present the Opposing View

Fixed-mindset athletes need to be reminded that improving and growing requires a metamorphosis into a growth mindset. As these students ramp into tournament mode, be on high alert for their worry, stress, and fears to multiply. They view tournament competition as an event that will expose their shortcomings. It’s our job to present tournament play as a healthy way to assess their development necessary to obtain their goals.

Warning: Responding to and changing their negative banter is emotionally draining even for the well-equipped software developing coach.

Examples of a fixed mindset approach include:

Athlete: “I can’t play, my games not perfect yet. I’m not ready.”

Teacher: “Every time you compete, you learn and improve, and that is the goal.”

Athlete: “If I don’t compete I won’t fail, and I can keep my pride.”

Teacher: “The only true failure is being too scared to try.”

Training the stroke components is only the beginning of a world-class coach’s journey. Having the tools to develop the whole athlete is the end game.

  • Religiously Spot the Positive

On practice days, I recommend applying the laws of attraction. Destroy their pessimistic point of view by asking them to say “yes” after performing a desired stroke or pattern of play. By doing so, it brings to light just how many good strokes they actually hit. This exercise combats their mental habit of focusing on the negative. Success starts by focusing on successes versus failures. It requires changing their doubt in their abilities because their doubt directly undermines their progress.

Once these pessimists see the progress in their abilities, they begin to show positive character traits and critical newborn life skills.

  • Commit to Playing One Game

On match days, fixed mindset “red flags” are everywhere as they try desperately to self-sabotage their performance. By doing so, they’re building their arsenal of excuses for their ego out. “I would have won, but I didn’t have time to train.” “I could have won if I didn’t have this blister on my thumb.”

Also, typical with fixed mindset athletes is to try desperately to back out of competition the morning of the match.

The negotiation tactic I recommend is to ask them to enjoy their pre-match preparation and commit to playing at least one game. If the athlete still wants to default out after one game, that’s fine. Once in the match, they almost always see that the environment is not as threatening as they perceived. The opponent’s not as good as they imagined. So they play a few more games.

Teach my growth mindset philosophy: You have to be present to win. Opportunities and incredible victories present themselves if the athletes are willing to try.

Benefits of Competition for Fixed Mindsets

Many undeniable, positive aspects stem from tournament competition. Advantages include:

  • Competition keeps us honest: It allows us to assess our strokes and movement efficiencies and deficiencies. Exposing our strengths and hiding our weaknesses is an important function of match play.
  • Competition assists us in the art of opponent profiling. Without match play, there’s no dissecting because there are no opponents.
  • Competition exposes our mental fortitude. The ability to stay on Script (your customized game plan), strategy and tactics the match demands.
  • Competition through failure and success helps us develop a massive list of life skills, positive character traits, and a moral compass.
  • Competition aids in developing consistent quality. Winning a 64 draw event requires peak performance for approximately 15 sets.
  • Competition assists us in customizing our future developmental schedules. It’s not the quantity of on-court time; it’s the quality that counts.

Tennis mastery is a process of continuous adaptation and improvement, which is a growth mindset system.

Building Coachable Athletes

Posted on December 7, 2023 by in The Soft Science of Tennis

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Building Coachable Athletes

During a seminar, I conducted at The Wingate Sports Institute in Tel Aviv, Israel an attending woman’s volleyball coach raised her hand and asked me a great question: How does one discover their true potential? I responded, whether you’re coaching, parenting or playing your chosen sport, realize that you’re only one decision away from going up a level. The choice to avoid risk is what holds most of us back. Even before we attempt an endeavor, fear of the unknown forces most of us to retreat our efforts.

In psychology, it’s called the Spotlight Effect. The brain hesitates when it perceives there’s going to be a problem. We are hardwired to avoid pain and hardship whether it be physical, mental or emotional.  It’s easy to slide back and continue the same old comfortable routines, but “easy” only produces average results. Tennis coaches and players habitually choose to groove another basket of balls versus shifting their focus to the actual needs of the player (cause of losses). Why? It’s far less painful.

What’s holding us back is changing our decisions to taking risks versus routinely avoiding risks. Unpredictability and uncertainty should be seen as positive gatekeepers. I recommend moving towards those feelings versus running away from them. We all have an affinity for our habits. All too often we stay too long with those habits not because they’re productive but because we’re loyal to them.

A new relationship to anything may appear risky, but truth be told, it’s often riskier to remain in an ineffective environment. The real danger lies in stagnation. We instinctively know that around the world, opponents are training smarter, faster and more efficiently. Remaining in our comfort zone will only leave us behind the competition. To our detriment, our brains will try to sabotage any and all attempts at doing anything uncomfortable. I recommend shifting focus from the negative attitude of “what could go wrong” to the positive attitude of “what could go right.”

Whose responsibility is it to teach coach-ability? The typical response from a parent is, “I assume my child’s coaches are teaching life skills…right?” Ask a coach and the response is, “Teaching life skills are the responsibility of the parents. They’re paying me to teach their child strokes.” Ideally, these core values are the result of everyone involved in the athlete’s development, with the parents playing the decisive role. Providing children with the opportunity to take responsibility and instill accountability at an early age is not only an essential skill set for coach-ability but a vital life skill. Communication and independent problem-solving skills are the foundations of coach-ability.

“Two core software skills champions need most are millisecond decision making and problem-solving skills. Both of which, are not commonly found in standardized drilling.”

Is Your Athlete Un-Coachable?

A gifted but un-coachable athlete is every coach’s nightmare. The un-coachable athlete displays the following symptoms: showing up late for practice and lacking personal commitment, passion and real effort. These athletes routinely play the blame game, roll their eyes at constructive feedback and are close-minded to improvement. Un-coachable athletes spend the majority of their training sessions defending their poor choices and creating drama.

“Some athletes cling desperately to bad form because they have spent years developing it.”

Being committed to one’s emotional development isn’t a genetic predisposition, it is a learned behavior nurtured by intelligent parents and coaches. Changing a talented yet un-coachable athlete into a coachable athlete takes great emotional aptitude from both the parents and coach.

Improving an athlete’s software (coach-ability) is often a prerequisite for real learning, quicker growth, and maximizing potential. I believe great coaches and parents have to facilitate coach-ability. They have to convince the athlete that change is good, which is key because learning begins with change and change begins with learning.

Emotional modification begins with the athlete being open and honest enough to develop a humble and respectful attitude, competitive drive, and willingness to learn. It includes gratefulness that a coach cares enough and is willing to tackle the un-pleasantries of the task. Teaching discipline, accountability, and responsibility is a very different job description than teaching a topspin backhand.

Let’s Look at the Characteristics of the Coachable Athlete:

  • Willingness to Accept the Coach’s Philosophy
  • Acceptance of the Necessity for Improvement
  • Desire to be Accountable
  • Optimism and Growth Minded
  • Respectfulness
  • Acceptance of Responsibility
  • Letting Go of Excuses
  • Non-Combative Attitude
  • Open-Minded too Constructive Criticism
  • Eager to Receive Feedback
  • Respectful of the Coach’s Knowledge
  • Selflessness
  • Integrity
  • Courageous

It’s astounding how many young athletes self-sabotage their potential by choosing to ignore the above positive characteristics. Coachable athletes are taught life skills development and religiously held accountable for their morals and ethical conduct by their parents and coaches. Parents and athletes, please look for the above positive characteristics of the coachable athlete in your entourage of coaches as well. You can be sure that quality coaches will be looking for the same positive characteristics in their students and their parents.

In the 1st Edition of The Tennis Parents Bible (published in 2010), I wrote about the importance of positive coaching and parenting. A vital take away was the use of the 5-1 compliment to critique rule (verbal and non-verbal). If athletes are to fire their optimistic responses we have to provide the ammunition. I recommend exposing these qualities in timely condensed sessions. Coaches, the above 14 coachable software skills should be discussed in a creative, interactive information exchange that feels like a chat versus a moral lesson.

TENNIS NONVERBAL CLUES

Posted on November 12, 2023 by in Maximizing Tennis Potential, The Soft Science of Tennis

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Non-Verbal Clues

Olivia: “I’m small, so I need to get inside their head to beat most top girls. I pay close attention to their between-point performance. Their tempo, their walk, their eyes, it all helps me manage the match.”

Nonverbal cues, such as eye movements, facial expressions, and body language, can reveal a wealth of information about your opponent’s thoughts, emotions, and intentions. By reading these nonverbal clues, you’ll sharpen your opponent’s awareness skills.

4.1 Eye Movements

Learn how to interpret where your opponent is looking; their focus follows their eyes. This discovery helps you identify attention shifts like hyper-focus or a wandering mind.

4.2 Facial Expressions and Emotions

Their facial cues can read frustration or determination. Their facial expressions expose their mental state; adjust your strategies accordingly.

4.3 Body Language and Posture

Identify signs of fatigue and confidence through their physical demeanor. Learn how to use their body language to anticipate their energy levels and mental state.

4.4 Movement Patterns and Intensity

Recognize footwork intensity before and after certain shots. It speaks volumes about their playing style, shot selections from different court positions, and game strategies.

4.5 Deception and Manipulation

Learn to identify their attempts to hide weaknesses and disrupt your flow. Their job is to disrupt your mental and emotional state, so expect it. I’m sure you’ve seen psychological ploys such as fake injuries. Plan on them and avoid being misled by the typical antics found in competition.

Reading your opponent’s nonverbal clues provides insights into their thoughts, emotions, and intentions. As you refine your ability to read these clues, you’ll gain another significant advantage in opponent profiling.

Tennis Listening to the Opponent

Posted on November 9, 2023 by in Maximizing Tennis Potential, The Soft Science of Tennis

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Listening to the Opponent

Zack: “I love it when my opponents start to complain. That’s when I know they’re losing control of the match. The inexperienced opponents unknowingly tell me what’s bothering them.”

Listening to the banter of your opponent can provide valuable information. Conversations with themselves provide crucial insights into their mindset, emotions, and strategic intentions. Listening to your opponent’s match dialogue enhances your opponent’s awareness skills.

3.1 The Language of Tennis

You want to hear what’s being felt, not just what’s being said. By picking up clues and reading past the words, you can pick up what they reveal about their game.

3.2 Emotional and Psychological Clues

Analyze the impact of frustration, anger, and disappointment on their decision-making and overall performance. Then strategize on how to use their emotional vulnerabilities to your advantage.

3.3 Mindset and Confidence

By decoding your opponent’s verbal cues, you’ll anticipate their intent. Evaluating their mental and emotional state helps make informed decisions in the match.

3.4 Communication With Their Team

Observe the nonverbal communication between your opponent and their team between points and changeovers. You’re typically not just playing against the opponent but their entourage.

We have explored the importance of listening to your opponent’s match dialog as a valuable source of information for opponent profiling. As you refine these skills, you will be better equipped to anticipate and make informed, strategic decisions.

Opponent Profiling- Connecting the Dots

Posted on October 31, 2023 by in Maximizing Tennis Potential, The Second Edition of The Tennis Parent's Bible

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Connecting the Dots

Max: “As soon as I stretch someone wide and spot them slicing, I know they’re vulnerable, so I move inside the court to steal a volley off their weak reply.”

The skill of opponent profiling is analyzing your adversary’s game to gain a strategic advantage. Let’s explore the profound benefits of reading the opponent and how it can enhance your decision-making skills in competition.

1.1 Understanding the Advantages

Understanding their skill sets enables you to exploit weaknesses and capitalize on opportunities. Knowing how to disrupt their game and not allowing them to play their favorite patterns is something to consider.

1.2 Connecting the Dots

The match slides in your favor once you connect the dots and learn to counteract their favorite plays. By reading the opponent, you anticipate their moves, hesitate less and cover the court quicker.

1.3 Analyzing Matches

Staying at the tournament site after losses to rehearse profiling the top seeds improves your software skills—plan on charting the other top players. A wide variety of charts are available to assist you in discovering why they’re still in the event and you’re spectating. See THE MATCH CHART COLLECTION by Frank Giampaolo on Amazon.

1.4 Exploiting Tendencies on Big Points

Identifying their preferred shots enables you to anticipate them in big points. Smart opponents do what they do best on game points. By predicting their go-to patterns, you’ll shut them down and make them beat you without their primary weapons.

1.5 Psychological Advantage

Psychological warfare impacts the emotions of your opponent. Opponent profiling helps disrupt your adversary’s focus, inner belief, and confidence. It’s your job to destroy their hope in battle.

1.6 Adaptability and Flexibility

Paying attention allows you to adapt and counter your opponent’s changing tactics. You’ll adjust your game plan based on your observations. We’ve explored some of the benefits of reading the opponent. As we progress through this book, we’ll dive deeper into the techniques and strategies that will enable you to become a master at profiling your opponents.

The Power of the Mind in Tennis

Posted on September 23, 2023 by in Maximizing Tennis Potential

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THE TENNIS ENCYCLOPEDIA!

The Power of the Mind

“If thoughts can cause stress…then thoughts can cause comfort. It’s a choice.”

The game of tennis is a delicate dance between the physical and the mental. While athleticism and technical skills are undoubtedly crucial, the power of the mind truly sets apart the champions from the rest.

1.1 Understanding the Mind-Body Connection

Tennis requires synchronization between the mind and the body. Every physical movement and decision on the court is a product of the mind-body connection.

Emotions also trigger thoughts that positively or negatively impact an athlete’s coordination and biochemistry. Poor emotions hijack the mind under pressure leaving athletes stranded alone and unable to compete.

1.2 Exploring the Impact of Feelings, Thoughts, and Beliefs

Our thoughts and feelings are our way of dealing with pressure. These feelings can be true or false. It’s important to note that our feelings aren’t always real. Often these conditioned emotional responses are merely speculations. As a competitive athlete, your thoughts condition your habits, and your habits shape your beliefs.

1.3 False Assumptions

Your negative habits may include pessimistic self-talk, self-doubt, or unwanted limiting beliefs that stall progress and hold you back from playing at your peak potential. On the other hand, your positive thoughts, empowering beliefs, and a strong mental attitude can propel you past your fears and toward the skills we know you must master.

1.4 Neuroplasticity

Neuroplasticity is the ability of the brain to reorganize old connections. So, with time and effort, you can reroute poor habits such as untrustworthy stroke techniques or how to respond to adversity.

1.5 Embracing Neuroplasticity

Embracing the concept of Neuroplasticity will involve walking away from old comfortable habits and trading them in for uncomfortable, superior choices.

1.6 Embracing Discomfort

You can rewire your neural pathways and reshape your thinking patterns through deliberate practice and mental conditioning. Discomfort is a catalyst for growth.

Neuroplasticity teaches us that age-old excuse of “I can’t” just got thrown out the window. You can make changes, and this book will teach you how.

1.7 Tackling Discomfort

I promise you, being uncomfortable is a normal and healthy part of progress. If you genuinely want to improve, it can’t be avoided. A better future isn’t created from what you’ve chosen to do in your past but from what you haven’t tried yet. Doing what is comfortable is typical. Doing what’s uncomfortable is where mastery lives.

“A better future isn’t created from what you’ve chosen to do in your past but from what you haven’t tried yet.”

Self-Sabotage

Posted on May 24, 2023 by in Maximizing Tennis Potential

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“Run Towards Winning Versus Running Away from Losing.”

Self-Sabotage

Self-sabotage is an “inside job.” If your athlete is their own worst enemy in competition, the issue likely lies in the relationship between your athlete’s conscious and subconscious mind. The conscious mind is the analytical, neurotic part of each athlete’s personality. It wants to help so badly that it causes problems. The issues occur because the conscious mind is constantly editing and evaluating every aspect of the performance. It is rarely possible to get into the zone and stay in that flow state if the athlete is editing too much during competition. You see, great competitors apply effortless effort. Meaning they’re putting out effort without the worry.

The subconscious mind is easygoing. It trusts the fact that it has performed these routines thousands of times. It’s the automatic pilot relaxed performer. Gifted athletes choke and panic at the most inopportune times because their conscious mind is overthinking and worrying about the possibility of future failure. This catastrophic way of thinking becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Stressing out about the possibility of future failure causes dopamine and adrenaline to flood the body systems as fear and muscle tension take center stage. Too many of these released hormones hijack an athlete’s brain.

Solution: Remind your athlete that it’s a privilege to be able to play tennis. Worrying about the outcome brings unwanted visitors through the conscious judgmental mind. Ask your athlete to observe their performance and make adjustments without judging. Before competition, preset solutions to possible future problems. Accepting an excellent performance versus a perfect performance is a great start to distressing an athlete. Great performances are born in inner silence.

The Tennis Parents and Frank Giampaolo- Part 3

Posted on August 7, 2020 by in The Second Edition of The Tennis Parent's Bible

The following post is an excerpt from the Second Edition of The Tennis Parent’s Bible NOW available through most online retailers!  Click Here to Order

Frank Giampaolo’s original Tennis Parent’s Bible is nearing 10 years with a second edition published in 2016 and it is still considered a must-read for all parents of tennis players.  Read a few more testimonials!

 

INDUSTRY PROFESSIONAL TESTIMONIALS

 

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“This book is excellent. Parents need it. Coaches must have it! Broad topics with one goal: to make an athlete successful.”

Marcin Bieniek, Tennis Island Poland

 

“The Triangle between player, coach, and parent is full of speed bumps and sharp curves! Everyone wants to accelerate and speed ahead to the supposed finish line. Too often what should be a fun and rewarding journey gets forgotten. kudos to Frank for providing a roadmap to developing a better young tennis player, and a better relationship with their coaches and parents……..forever.

This is a great resource for every coach who wants to develop great players and most importantly, responsible young adults.”

Chuck Gill, President USPTA

 

“Frank Giampaolo has created a masterpiece for the competitive junior tennis player’s parents.  The Tennis Parent Bible, in its’ second edition, clearly spells out what tennis parents need to know and understand about how to navigate their tennis playing children through this maze of highly competitive and performance-driven tennis.  Don’t think about this one!  Just read it!”

Lane Evans, USPTA Elite Professional, iTPA Master Tennis Performance Specialist

 

“Frank is one of the most knowledgeable tennis coaches in the country. He has written, in my professional opinion, the best and most comprehensive tennis book for parents that I’ve read in my 55 –year tennis career.”

Desmond Oon, Ph.D., Former Davis Cup Coach (Republic of Singapore), Author, Master Pro USPTA

 

“A first-class book from a first-class coach. Frank is an encyclopedia of tennis knowledge, has extraordinary talents to share, and is a model of professionalism. When all of these components come together, an excellent book such as The Tennis Parent’s Bible appears.

By educating yourself, your children will have better results. This book is a must-read for parents to understand how to educate themselves and to appreciate the extensive process they, their children, and their coaches are undergoing while their children are developing their tennis skills.”

Shaul Zohar, Manager, Kiryat Shmona Israel Tennis Center

 

“The Tennis Parents Bible should be mandatory reading (with an annual rotating online quiz) that’s required for ALL PARENTS for their children to play in USTA events! Seriously. If parent training was required, it could change this sport in a powerful way for generations!”

Joe Dinoffer, President, Oncourt Offcourt, Ltd., USPTA and PTR Master Professional, Dallas, Tx.

 

“Reading The Tennis Parents Bible is like having a delicious conversation with a tennis guru who is generously sharing all of his knowledge, results, and lessons learned. As a former tennis coach, I’ve recommended this to hundreds of tennis families who come back to me within days overjoyed and excited. They feel like they finally can put all the pieces of the puzzle together. Quite simply it’s your go-to guide that is already a classic must-read for every coach and tennis parent.”

Ian Bishop, CEO of Coachseek, New Zealand