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Chances of Going Pro?

The following post is an excerpt from The Tennis Parent’s Bible.  Thanks for visiting, Frank Giampaolo

 

 

What are my child’s chances of going Pro?

 

What are my child’s chances of going pro? is a question I am asked over and over again by parents. To answer this question, I have designed another fun “Pop Quiz” as a guide. Take the quiz and you will formulate your own opinion as to what your child’s chances are of becoming a Professional.

Let’s assume that your child wants to play at a top Division 1 University or on the Professional Tour. They already possess keen strokes and a solid physical foundation. The real issue is: Do their words match their actions? Simply answer each question Yes or No. Then check your child’s score at the end.

Attitude

  1. Does your child posses a genuine love for the game of tennis? Yes/No
  2. Is your child being trained to be self-reliant? Yes/No

Commitment

  1. Does your child work on-court training an average of 20 hours a week? Yes/No
  2. Does your child accept that they cannot be a Champion and be a normal teenager? (They have to pick one.)Yes/No

Fitness

  1. Does your child work off -court an average of 6 hours per week on their speed, strength, flexibly, and core stability? Yes/No
  2. Does your child do exercises designed to prevent common injuries? Yes/No

Competitiveness

  1. Does your child work on how to handle frustration? Yes/No
  2. Does your child LOVE the pressure of competitive tennis? Yes/No

Confidence

  1. Is your child comfortable in stressful situations? Yes/No
  2. Does your child spend time after tournaments discovering and overcoming re-occurring nightmares? Yes/No

Problem Solving

  1. Is your child willing to overcome hardships and adversity? Yes/No
  2. Is your child able to handle the many unfair barriers of our sport? Yes/No

Focus

  1. Does your child use proper pre-match, between points, and changeover rituals? Yes/No
  2. Does your child control nervousness and distractions? Yes/No

Tactical Knowledge

  1. Does your child have well-rehearsed plans to beat the different styles of opponents? Yes/No
  2. Has your child developed two meaningful weapons? Yes/No

A Full Time Tennis Parent

  1. Is there a primary tennis parent willing to accept the responsibility, time commitment, and finances of managing a junior tennis champion’s career? Yes/No
  2. Do you chart and/or video tape matches then review them with your child? Yes/No

Mental and Emotional Skills

  1. Have you begun to focus on building your child’s “Tool Belt” with hundreds of mental and emotional tools that they will need to compete at the highest level? Yes/No
  2. Do you have a detailed long and short term goal list and the time management skills required to meet those goals? Yes/No

Scoring the Test

0-2 Yes Answers – Relax and enjoy your normal kid
3-5 Yes Answers – You will need a Miracle
6-10 Yes Answers – Major changes have to be made
11-14 Yes Answers – Your child has a serious shot at Greatness!
15-20 Yes Answers – Pack your bags for Wimbledon!

 

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Cultivating Proactive Patterns

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Cultivating Proactive Patterns

As athletes in every sport progress from recreational players to competitive players they shift from playing reactive ball to proactive ball. Think about organized soccer, basketball and American football. Do they run plays? You bet!

In tennis, your child should shift from playing “catch” (hitting back and forth with their coach) to playing “keep away!”

Many talented tennis players spend their developmental years hitting back and forth from the base line.  You know the drills- down the line, cross court, up the middle etc. But to accelerate your child’s tennis game, be sure their practice includes pattern play and random ball drills.

Can your child list their favorite serving patterns, return of service patterns, rally patterns and net rushing patterns?  If your child hasn’t established these protocols, they are just playing reactive tennis.  Champions play proactive tennis.

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Daily Focus Journal

The following post is an excerpt from The Tennis Parent’s Bible.  Thanks for visiting, Frank Giampaolo

The Tennis Parent's Bible by Frank Giampaolo

What is a Daily Focus Journal?

A daily focus journal is a written schedule or goal.  It may include specific achievements, progress and necessary actions needed. The serious contenders I know, who are finding the success they deserve are completing a daily focus journal. Every night they are listing three to five things they did that day to progress their tennis career.

The key words are “Every Night.” Success is not a random act. It comes from a preconceived set of circumstances. It’s planned.  If our child needs to gain confidence, help them by  tackling their organizational skills.

FUN FACT: Choices Equals Consequences

Examples of daily activities that could be listed in a Daily Focus Journal include:

  • Playing a match
  • Fixing a stroke
  • Stringing their racquets
  • Watching tennis on TV
  • Working on between point rituals
  • Working on how to beat a pusher
  • Finding a new doubles partner
  • Finding practice matches
  • Doing 200 push ups
  • Doing sprints

FUN FACT: When real preparation meets opportunity, success will follow.

 

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Tennis and the Pain Principle

 

The following post is an excerpt from The Tennis Parent’s Bible.  Thanks for visiting, Frank Giampaolo

The Pain Principle

Overlooking the pain principle as it relates to tennis growth is a very common mistake.

Remember the old saying? “If you keep on doing what you’ve always done, you’ll keep on getting what you’ve always got.” Players hit common walls in their development. One of those walls is resisting change.

If your child views change, as more painful than losing, they’ll continue in the same losing path. It’s so painful for some to change a flawed grip, stroke or stance; they’d rather accept the pain of losing than deal with changing.

Great things begin to happen when the pain of losing starts to be more powerful than the pain of changing. Once they accept the fact that a change has to be made, they are on their way to the next level.  This is where great parenting comes in.

The cycle of change is a three step process:

  1. Step one is accepting change.
  2. Step two is uncomfortable because they have left their old strokes and their new strokes are not fully formed.
  3. Step three is a 4-6 week developmental cycle. During this phase, their new motor programs become personalized and over-ride the old motor programs.

NOTE: At stage 2, the pain of being uncomfortable often pulls them back to their old strokes.

Placing your youngster into a competitive situation before the three phases are complete may destroy their new motor program and the old strokes will surely return.  The result is wasted time, energy and money. As a parent, be sure your player and coach are on the same page with the necessary changes. Thanks for visiting, Frank

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Another Holiday Spend on Court

The following post is an excerpt from The Tennis Parent’s Bible.  Thanks for visiting, Frank Giampaolo

Another Holiday Spent on the Tennis Court? 

How many times have you had to defend not being at a holiday celebration because of a tennis tournament?

Many non –high performance family members and/or friends do not get it? And that is okay, but when parents put regular social life events first, their child’s tennis progress can be delayed.  It is very important for the family to decide on their comfortable level of commitment to tennis.

It is not fair to expect the child to perform at peak performance if the parents are not making a 100% commitment.  For example: sending your child to the Spring Nationals the week after returning from a family vacation, away from homework, tennis and work, and expecting success.

High level tennis requires proper preparation. There is a time and place for tennis breaks.  It should be joint decision. Preparing for a tennis tournament is twofold.

  • First, your child should consistently train properly a month or so before a big event.
  • Secondly, they should have a pre-game set of rituals to assist them in their match preparation.

Hours before a match, Nadal morphs into a different personality. Chris Evert said she wouldn’t even call a friend before a match in fear that it may break her concentration. Before each concert, Tom Petty sits quietly alone with his acoustic guitar visualizing and preparing for that night’s concert. Michael Phelps even swam on Christmas Day-practice always came first.

Preparing mind, body and soul before a match is a learned behavior. Allowing your son to go wrestle in the grass with the other kids before a big match isn’t in his best interest. Allowing your daughter to text 39 friends then fight with her boyfriend hours before a big match isn’t in her best interest.

Knowing how and when to turn on the competitor within is critical. Assist your child in finding their own unique game day rituals. After the match is complete, your child can leave it all behind with no regrets.

SPECIAL NOTE: Attending tennis tournaments can be very memorable.  I would always make a special effort to travel and visit local tourist sites or plan special dinners when my daughter was on the tennis trail.  To this day, my family has very fond memories of our tennis travels.  Many of our tennis memories will outlast another holiday sit down dinner.  Enjoy the journey!

 

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How to Handle Cheaters

The following post is an excerpt from Frank’s  New Zealand’s Player/Parent/Coach Summit.  Thank you for visiting, Frank Giampaolo

 

 

Gently Pushing Your Athlete

The following post is an excerpt of The Tennis Parent’s Bible.  Thank you for visiting, Frank Giampaolo

The Tennis Parent's Bible by Frank Giampaolo

How do you push your child gently?

Frequently, parents get fixated on what our junior “world beater” is doing wrong, what they need to change, need to learn or need to improve! Because we are so focused on our child’s success, we often become preoccupied with only seeing their faults.

Focus on putting a positive spin in your approach as you gently guide your child through the “wars” of junior tennis.

Here are three ways you can apply your positive influence:

  1. Say 5 Positive comments for every Negative commentThe fact is many youngsters only hear their parent’s negative comments and ignore positive comments. It is important to acknowledge your child’s efforts to improve.
    SPECIAL NOTE: Here’s an eye opening or I should say “ear” opening trick. Place a recorder in your pocket. Record a few training sessions and self-chart your positive to negative remarks!
  2. Celebrate the Positive: Reinforce what you want to see more!The following is an example of this rule. Your son’s ball toss is still too high on his serve. Instead of saying “Come on Mike…You are still tossing too high…How many stinking times do I have to tell you!” say “Hey, this is great, your toss is a lot lower. I knew you could make this easy change! Keep working and you will see your consistency really grow!” The positive approach actually gets results as you keep your relationship from getting negative and jaded.
  3. Teach Gratitude: A more positive attitude will lead to more positive behavior.Assist your child in focusing on the good things about their life. Problems and difficulties will always be present. It is very important for your child to feel grateful about their life opportunities.
    FUN FACT: There is a world of difference between “I have to play tennis today” and “I get to play tennis today.”
    By showing gratitude, both of you will be calmer, happier and more appreciative of each other and others will want to be around you because of your positive attitudes.

To summarize, replace criticisms with a more positive approach. Hard work doesn’t have to be a painful, drudgery. Yes, tennis is hard. Yes, it is a “dog-eat-dog world”, but it doesn’t have to be negative.

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The School Methodology of Tennis Training

The following post is a YouTube from a New Zealand Player/Parent/Coach Summit that Frank Giampaolo conducted with Craig Bell.

 

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Anger on the Court

The following post is an excerpt from The Tennis Parent’s Bible.  Thank you for visiting, Frank Giampaolo

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Anger on the Court?

On-court anger is very familiar to many. The ability to channel anger and improve performance is a skill many juniors have not fully developed.  Most juniors displaying anger/emotional meltdowns on court are doing so because they have not properly prepared. Below are several reasons your that may help your child reduce anger fits on court.  (For more detail:  The Tennis Parent’s Bible)

Rehearse Successful Performance Goals Versus “I Have to Win” Goals:

Champions are performance orientated and not outcome orientated. After a match parents need to replace “Did you win?” with “How did you play?” In the 2009 Masters Doubles, one ATP team got 81 percent of their first serves in and capitalized on 3 out of 4 break points. Guess who won easily?

Tennis is Not Fair:

There are so many reasons why this game is not fair. Understanding these issues will reduce the stress some juniors place on themselves. For instance, luck of the draw, court surfaces, match location, weather (wind, sun, etc.), lucky let courts…Can you think of a few?

Everyone Gets the Same 24 Hours in a Day:

The difference is how they use it. I mentioned in a previous chapter that most juniors have an excess number of hours unaccounted for… I suggested getting a daily planner and discuss time management with your child. Assist them in organizing their on-court and off-court weekly schedule.

Managing Stress:

Experience tells us that if you are in a fight, take some time to clear your head. Get away or go for a brisk walk. Talk to your child about time management as it pertains to controlling the pace of the match. Winners often take bathroom breaks at critical times in a match, don’t they? Controlling the energy flow of the match is a super way to control the fire.

 Champions Experience Failure:

Most tennis champions have probably lost way more matches than your child has lost. Ambitious people experience many failures. The majority of professionals lose every week- only one player can win the tournament. Does that mean most players are losers? Not a chance! Champions learn from their loses.

Never Outgrow Fun:

You often see top professionals battle and still smile in the course of a match. Stress and anger clutter your thought processes, which decreases your ability to perform.

Tennis is a Gift Not a Right:

Discuss how there are millions of great athletes that are the same age as your child that will never get the opportunity to compete at this level. Tennis isn’t fair, right? But has your child thought about how lucky they are to be able to play tennis and have a family that wants to support their passion?

Good Judgment Comes From Experience:

So where does experience come from? The funny answer is bad judgment. Talk to your child about how it is far less painful to learn from other peoples’ failures. After a loss, stay at the tournament site and chart a top seed. Analyze others’ success as well as pitfalls and learn how to avoid them.

Stay Aggressive through the Fear:

An old saying is “courage is not the absence of fear but the ability to carry on in spite of it.” Discuss how all too often we shift our style from “playing to win” to “playing not to lose.” Trust me folks, they are two very different mind sets.

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Understanding Genetic Predispositions

The following post is a link to one of my instructional articles printed in Tennis Industry Magazine- February 2015.  The article is about the importance of understanding your athlete’s make-up. Thanks for visiting, Frank Giampaolo

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http://www.tennisindustrymag.com/articles/2015/02/10_your_serve_mind_and_body.html

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