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TEN Questions Parents Should Ask Their Athletes
“Ask…don’t tell.”
Let’s begin with identifying the number one question parents should NOT ask, “Did you win?” This question pulls the athlete into an outcome-oriented mindset, instead of being growth-minded. The art of communication with athletes includes promoting accountability and problem-solving. Commanding your child what to think is a sure-fire way to encourage disconnection. It’s our job to show them where to look, but not to tell them what they see. Teach your athlete to analyze their performance and to research solutions that promote growth and retention.
Questions Parents Should Ask:
- How was your preparation?
- How do you feel about your performance?
- What worked well?
- What can you improve?
- What did you learn?
- How else would you have handled that?
- What would you do differently next time?
- Are you satisfied with your level of play?
- How was your composure under pressure?
- Did you thank your coaches?
Competitive tennis is incredibly emotional. Parents, it’s within your job description to share your calmness versus partaking in their chaos. Your child needs to hear, “I want to hear your opinion. I believe in you. I’ll always be here to help you.”
