THE TENNIS PARENT’S BIBLE
SECOND EDITION
CONTENTS
FOREWORD
PREFACE
INTRODUCTION
TENNIS COACHES INTRODUCTION
SECTION I: WORLD CLASS TENNIS
PARENTING AND COACHING
A. The Athlete’s Organizational Blueprint
- Nurturing a Deliberate Customized Plan
- Personality Profiling: Mental and Physical Predispositions
- Identifying the Parental Objective
- Developing a Family Philosophy
- Cultivating Life Lessons through Tennis
- Listening
- Player-Coach: Initial Information Exchange
- Nurturing Athletic Royalty
- Identifying the Levels of Competitive Tennis
- Considering the Economics of Tennis
- Establishing Expectations and Guidelines
- The College Scholarship Process
B. The Tennis Parent’s Job Description
- Introduction to the Tennis Parent’s Job Description
- The Three Phases of Athletic Development
- Positive versus Negative Psychology
- Elite Tennis Parent Job Post
- The Formula for Achieving Results
- The Tennis Parent’s ACTUALS: Job Descriptions
- Player/Parent Harmony
- Negative Parental Behaviors to Avoid
- Planning the Tournament Schedule
- Sample Weekly Training Schedule
- Periodization Training
- The Tournament Player’s Cycle
SECTION II:
MAXIMIZING POTENTIAL
AT THE QUICKEST RATE
A. The Science of Match Day Preparation
- Equipment Preparation
- Opponent Profiling
- Match Day Stretching
- Pre-Match Warm-Up Rituals
- Pre-Match Visualization and Imagery
- The Value of a Pre-Match Jog
- Match Day Entourage Support
- Pre-Match Entourage Communication
- Post-Match Entourage Communication and Responsibilities
- Match Charting and Types of Charts
- Match Day Video Analysis
B. Navigating the Athlete’s Pathway
- Identifying and Motivating Talent
- Keys to Accelerating Learning
- Managing Accelerated Learning
- Finding the Right Teaching Professional
- Signs of a High IQ Tennis Coach
- The “Pros and Cons” of High School Tennis
- The “Pros and Cons” of Tennis Academies
SECTION III: THE MENTAL AND
EMOTIONAL TENNIS COMPONENTS
A. The Mental Components: Strategies and Tactics
- Strategy Made Easy
- A New Way to Look at Strategy
- Ten Essential Components of the Mentally Tough Competitor
- How to Build Mental Toughness
- Developing Your Athlete’s Top 7 Patterns
- Tipping Point Tendencies
- Opponent Profiling
- The Art of Consistency
- How to Beat a Moonball/Retrievers
- Ten Secrets to Stop Self-Destruction
B. The Emotional Components:
Performance Anxieties
- Performance Anxiety Symptoms and Causes
- Curing Performance Anxiety
- Improving Confidence and Low Self-Esteem
- Between Point Rituals and Change-Over Rituals
- Losing Versus Getting Beat
- How to Close Out a Match
SECTION IV: COMMON QUESTIONS & SOLUTIONS
A. Practice Session Dramas
- Why does our coach inject laughter into training?
- Even after a practice set, the first thing my dad asks is, “Did you win?”
- Why is avoiding performance anxiety in practice bad?
- Why is it hard for some athletes to make changes?
- What causes my son’s game day emotional train wrecks?
- Why is repetition so important in developing athletic royalty?
- Why does my child play great in practice but horrible in matches?
- How can we help supersize practice sessions?
- What is quality practice?
- My mom only wants me to play with better players, then goes psycho when I lose. Is that right?
- In scheduling practice sets, what should my daughter focus on?
- Is the game of doubles really that important anymore?
B. Competitive Dramas
1)Internal Struggles
- What does emotional conduct have to do with winning?
- What’s the difference between emotional and intellectual ability?
- Coaches always say “focus!” But what should my daughter focus on?
- My child’s mind wanders off in matches, how can we fix that?
- How can we help our son overcome his on-court anger?
- How do we help our daughter re-commit to her tennis?
- How do we spot tennis burn-out?
- My son is in a slump. How can we help him through this stage?
2)Handling Gamesmanship
- I see the balls out, my son sees them in. What gives?
- What forms of gamesmanship should my daughter expect in tournament tennis?
- What are the solutions to confronting gamesmanship?
- Why does my daughter become irrational
when cheated?
- My son wants harmony on the court, so he won’t do anything to stop a cheater. What
can we do?
- What should my daughter do if her opponent
is hooking?
- How can we help our son with his fear of confrontation?
- My child is scared to call an umpire to the
court. How can we help?
- When should juniors begin to develop counter-gamesmanship skills?
- What can we do if our sons doesn’t call out balls out?
- Should athletes employ legal gamesmanship tactics?
- What is pre-match gamesmanship/intimidation?
C. Parental Accountability
- What is a developmental blue print?
- What does a top player’s weekly training schedule look like?
- My son isn’t that serious. Does he still need a plan?
- What are secondary strokes?
- What determines my daughter’s best playing style?
- After a loss, why should athletes go back to the site to watch other athletes?
- Should parents be discouraged or encouraged to watch practice?
- Are you a helicopter parent?
- My son says I’m negative. How do I push him nicely?
- What can my wife and I do to prepare our daughter for the onslaught of the mental and emotional demands of the game?
- My husband wants it more than my son. Can you talk to him?
- Is proper nutrition and hydration really that important?
- Can you clarify the nutritional myths surrounding tennis?
- What are the benefits of physical training?
- How will improved fitness accelerate my child’s game?
D. Player Accountability
- What are the hidden skill sets of champions?
- What are some of the hidden roadblocks and myths found in high performance tennis?
- Why do some athletes thrive under extreme pressure and some melt down?
- Why do some juniors see a performance review as character assassination?
- What is drive time training?
- Should my son copy Nadal?
- My daughter is losing to players she use to beat.
Can you help?
- How can we assist our son in decreasing his
unforced errors?
- My daughter watches the tennis channel all day.
Is that helping?
- I believe my son’s perfectionism is interfering with
his performance. Got any tips?
- How can my daughter let go of her perfectionism?
- What are your Champions Pledges I read about?
- Should my son use a daily focus journal?
SECTION V: PARENT AND PLAYER REALITY CHECK
A. Parent Reality Check
- What’s Your Parental/Coaching Style?
- Parent/Player Communication Checklist
- Are you a “Crazy” Tennis Parent?
B. Player Reality Check
- Are you a Contender or Pretender?
- Does Your Child Needs Mental/Emotional Training?
- Physical, Mental and Emotional Reality Check
- The Reality of “Going Pro?”
SECTION VI: TOP 50 TENNIS PARENT BLUNDERS & CURES
A. Nurturing Character Blunders
- Ignoring your Personality and Body Type
- Parent’s Don’t Need Guidance
- Being an Unaccountable Parent
- Underestimating the Success Formula
- Avoiding Character Building
- Encouraging Dependency
- Talking Economics Before /After a Match
- Thinking Perfect Strokes are Mandatory
- Managing Without a “Hollywood” Script
- Ignoring Off Court Training, Proper Nutrition and Hydration
B. Maintaining Positive Communication Blunders
- Not Acknowledging Your Child’s Efforts
- Keeping Them on the Tournament Trail
- Playing Them Up Too Soon
- Talking at Visual Learners
- Parents Words Not Matching Their Actions
- Ignoring Your Non-Verbal Communication
- Being Arrogant to Lower Ranked Players and Their Parents
- Criticizing Other Players
- Talking about Your Child’s Peers
C. Navigating Tournament Blunders
- Being In- Flexible
- Under Valuating the Importance of Life Skills
- Neglecting Pre-Match Routines
- Refusing to Play Them Down, When it Might Pump Them Up
- Forgetting They Must Be Present to Win
- Watching Their Matches versus Charting and Video Taping
- Expecting Your Child to Win Their First Few Big Events
- Worrying About Things Beyond Your Control
D. Optimal State of Mind Blunders
- Overlooking Goal Setting
- Outcome Oriented Questions and Negative Remarks
- Focusing Only on Aptitude and Overlooking Attitude
- Assuming Your Teen is Organized and Accountable
- Misunderstanding Choking Under Stress
- Misunderstanding Panicking Under Stress
- Freaking Them Out Before a Final
- Postponing Happiness
E. Accelerated Growth Blunders
- Not Seeing Stumbling Blocks as Stepping Stones
- Perfectionism
- Focusing Only on Strokes
- Believing Quantity of Court Time is Quality Court Time
- Neglecting Between Point and Change Over Rituals
- Ignoring Their B and C Game Plans
- Overlooking the Pain Principle
- Assuming That Tennis Speed is Only Foot Speed
F. Intelligent Training Blunders
- Not Having an Entourage
- Being Oblivious to Periodization
- Neglecting Smart Work
- Encouraging “One Set Wonders”
- Putting Them in the Crowd to Get Ahead of the Crowd?
- Believing Weekly Lessons are Enough
- Going into Battle Unprepared
SECTION VII: CUSTOMIZED PLAYER EVALUATION
A.Introduction Player Evaluation Forms
- Cultivating Life Lessons
- Organizing Your Career and Your Team
- Off-Court Training
- Match Day Preparation
- On-Court Physical (Primary & Secondary Strokes)
- On-Court Emotional (Issues & Solutions)
- On-Court Mental (Tactic & Strategies)
B. Player Ranking Analysis
- Ranking Goals
- Advanced Tournament Match Log
- Intermediate Tournament Match Log
- Weekly Planner
- Top Seven Patterns
- Tennis Bag “Cheat Sheet”
SECTION VIII: TENNIS INDUSTRY
INTERVIEWS
A.Professional Player and Coach Interviews
- Johan Kriek- 2-Time ATP Grand Slam Champion
- Nick Saviano – WTA Professional Coach
- Sam Sumyk- WTA Professional Coach
- Stevie Johnson- ATP Professional
- Sam Querrey- ATP Professional
B.College Coach Interviews
- Peter Smith -Men’s Head Coach University of Southern California
- Collin Foster- Women’s Head Coach
Wichita State University
- Robert Dallas- Women’s Head Coach
Dartmouth College
C.Parent Interview
- Parent/Coach Steve Johnson Sr.
CONCLUSION
PARENTAL RESOURCES
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